Tell us your love story/how did you meet?
We wish this story were a little less ordinary, but it’s all we’ve got: we picked each other out of a pile of inappropriate OkCupid messages, ranging from the bizarre to the offensive. Corina’d been on there for a couple of months, mostly doing personality quizzes and ignoring her inbox, and one particularly terrible day she woke up to a particularly sleazy message and decided she would delete her account when she got home that night. She spent her dinner complaining to her friends about what a terrible experience online dating was, and pulled out her phone to share that awful message. But instead she found a message from Kean: “Hey. Hi. Wanna go on a hike sometime with me and my dog?” Followed by an incredibly cute Kean photo. Her friends made her promise she’d go on a date with him and give this whole online dating thing a shot. (We did, and it was a great first date).
What about the proposal?
We got engaged on a very low key day in a very low key way. It was winter in Los Angeles, so we were both wearing flannel overshirts. We went to see Guardians of the Galaxy (super PG-13) and geeked out about those magnificent, golden, CGI dinosaurs. Then we played Scrabble and took turns letting each other win. Kean asked Corina to light a paper lantern in the front yard with him. Then he threw a ring at her and practically ran across the street, he was so nervous. She yelled yes over oncoming traffic.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
Every day, but also never. We don’t really think about it that way. We work hard at our relationship, at deepening our intimacy and growing our connection. You become meant to be when you make a decision to be with each other through thick and thin. That’s a decision you have to make over and over again for as long as you’re together.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We knew we wanted to get married in New York City (we live in Los Angeles), we knew the limitations of our budget, we knew we wanted a vegetarian wedding, and a non-religious, but spiritual, ceremony. We saw a few places in different boroughs, and finally found the Metropolitan Building in Long Island City, which we totally fell in love with. We loved that it was a converted space, a bit of a fixer-upper, that you could see its rickety old bones. It had a very specific vibe, this patchwork aesthetic that totally matched our taste, and we had to do minimal decorating. It was like we found a building with the same personality as our love.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Planning our wedding was super easy and really fun. We trusted the people we hired (our officiant, our chef, our florist, and so on) to do their best work and really stayed out of their way. We were getting married in New York, surrounded by creative, smart, hardworking people - it was a dream, and we just let it come together like a big, fun party. We made a lot of stuff ourselves: we potted the succulents we were sending people home with as party favors, we bought all the drinks at Costco, we asked our friends for help decorating. We just kind of divided and conquered all of the tasks, and we were so lucky to have the most easy going friends to help with everything. The last day or two before the wedding got a little stressful with all the last minute details, and was the only time we wished we had a wedding planner.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
That planning a wedding from out of town is not as straight-forward as planning a wedding in the town you live in. It required some extra traveling and a lot of creative stand-in roles for family. If we had to do it again, we might consider a wedding planner, though the hands-on approach really is more our speed, so maybe not. Food for thought.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now?
Nothing about your wedding is worth fighting with each other. After all, it’s just one day. It’s easy to forget that when you are managing everyone’s expectations (including parents, who really take their kids’ weddings very personally), but keep reminding each other that you’re getting married to celebrate your love, full stop. It’s important to work the compromise muscle and to ask for what you want and need, as it is every day of your marriage. Also, try to have each other’s back with the in-laws. There will be a LOT of requests.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
The great big dance party with all of our friends (our friend DJ Average Jo basically killed that dance floor), and all of our amazing pictures. Thank God - or the Universe - for Levi Stolove, our photographer! We pop open our photo album every few months and we almost-always almost-cry.