Tell us how you met and fell in love!
We met on Bumble in October 2017. Alissa took great care in writing her profile description; I didn't write anything and later revealed I didn't even read Alissa's profile (I was instantly smitten by Alissa’s first picture). Needless to say, there was instant attraction, soon followed by tons of texts getting to know each other before officially meeting. The first date lasted 3.5 hours and we both were amazed by how easily conversation flowed and that our interests and values aligned so well. Over the course of our relationship me and Alissa continue to be inseparable-- cheering each other on, inspiring each other to work hard, and always finding comfort in our love at the end of the day.
Was there a proposal? Tell us about it!
There was a proposal!! I proposed to Alissa and had been planning it for months. I am naturally a planner so I had 3 proposal plans, and just like everything in life, things just fell through and I ended up having to propose to Alissa with Plan C. I proposed on January 18th in Tacoma, WA.
The day started out somewhat like a normal Friday (I had Alissa take time off from work so we can just have a day of R&R). I told her we had dinner plans in downtown Seattle but due to Plans A & B falling through, I had to change locations and so I told her that we had dinner plans in Tacoma, WA.
The drive down to Tacoma was excruciating due to traffic and because we were driving 25 miles for what she thought was going to be a usual seafood date night. 2 hours later we pull up to Chambers Bay Regional Park which, at the time, she didn’t recognize due to the darkness of the night, but this was special to us because earlier in our relationship we came here to the bridge at the park and found a lock to write our initials & anniversary date and “lock” it on the bridge. What I failed to realize was that parks in WA close (in MN I’m used to parks staying open 24 hours a day) and thus the gate was up and so we couldn’t get to the bridge where our lock was.
Luckily, our wonderful photographers at the time (shout out Aaron & Morgan Latimer), found a landing in which they placed tea lights and lights to make it feel extra romantic. We got to the center of the lights and I had made a book of My Reasons Why I Love Alissa. It was a simple yet cute cartoony book of all the reasons why I love her. We read it together in the torrential rain that was happening and on the very last page was the cartoon version of me down on 1 knee asking her to marry me. When she looked up, Alissa saw that I was down on 1 knee.
To this day I don’t know exactly what I said to her, but I remember through my tears telling her that I choose her and that I promise to love her in this lifetime and all lifetimes after that. She said YES and in the torrential downpour, we polished off a couple glasses of champagne and celebrated this amazing moment together. 😊
Are you planning your wedding right away or giving yourself some time to just be engaged?
We’ve been planning our wedding the day after we got engaged! Our wedding is set for Oct. 12 2019 and we couldn’t be more excited.
What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your spouse-to-be?
There’s such thing as real authentic love. I never understood what that meant or even had a good framework of “love” and throughout our relationship Alissa has consistently showed me what it’s like to be loved. Wholly.
What’s your favorite part of your relationship?
Alissa. Yes I know it’s cliché, but she is by far the best thing to happen to me. She is my favorite part of a lot of things including this relationship. She continues to push me to be a better lover, person, and friend. I wouldn’t and couldn’t do this with anyone else, but her.