Hudson Valley Brides
Tell us your love story!
We me online on OkCupid, neither of us were expecting anything serious to come out of an online relationship. We had messaged back and forth for about two months before we even met in person, she had even ghosted me along the way so clearly there were low expectations. But, we finally both said "Hey, is this ever going to happen?" and we bit the bullet and set up a first date.
I was so nervous I set up for late night drinks which sure enough came back to bite me because Kristie grabbed drinks with co-workers beforehand and showed up to our date plastered! On more than one occasion she got up and forgot where our table was and thought I had left. But, the conversation was still good and I had gotten to know her for the two months prior which is why the date wasn't a complete write off. I caught up with the drinks and one thing led to the next and we have been together ever since, and it still makes for a good first date story!
What about the proposal?
We had been talking for awhile about the next step and getting married, we knew it would happen, we just didn't know when. As time went on though the conversation just became more about what are we waiting for, we know we both want this. We had plans to go hiking one day and when we woke up it was pouring so the day was a wash but our picnic stuff was still ready to go, so we had an impromptu indoor picnic. Our conversation gravitated toward the marriage conversation and Kristie said "but really, why haven't you married me yet?" and I said "I don't have a good reason, will you marry me? Like for real? I'm asking you right now!" It was completely spontaneous, no ring, no planning and the worst bottle of wine we ever had but it was us. Little did I know I had ruined her plans she had made for her own engagement surprise just 3 weeks away, her and my best friend still won't tell me what they planned because they never got their chance to shine haha!
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
I think we just kind of always knew. We clicked really immediately, two weeks into us dating she was on vacation for two weeks visiting family and those two weeks were agonizing to be apart. It felt strange because we had just really started seeing each other, but at the same time everything felt natural. If you ask her she will say she knew after the second date which happened to be my birthday, and I say after the fourth date when she had to come with me to the hospital after I found out I was allergic to pineapple at dinner. Really the first week for us was so profound we just knew.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We definitely knew we wanted an outdoor wedding, something with a rustic feel and definitely not anything too large. I had had a clear vision of what I was looking for the day and Kristie luckily trusts that vision so it was easy to jump in.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
The biggest surprise about planning was all the stress that set in the 3 weeks beforehand. We had done all the big things like venue, photographer, catering all relatively quickly and things seemed to come right together. But when you get down to mere days to go you realize how much little stuff there is to do to make it really come off exactly how you wanted. The easy part for us was just finding a venue and agreeing on our vendors. We had had a clear vision and the people that we chose shared in that vision and we really connected with them. They made the wedding process easier by being so helpful and offering suggestion to help make our day what we planned. The most difficult part was in the days leading up to the wedding, handing over the reigns of this thing you have worked so hard on to other people and hope it's everything you envisioned when you walk down the aisle.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
I wish we knew how useful a wedding planner or day of coordinator could be. That would have definitely alleviated a lot of stress that piled on in the home stretch weeks.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Our advice is to stay true to yourself and your vision. The wedding is for you and your spouse and make it what you want, don't let others try and steer you from something that you want. But also know, that when you look back on the day you won't remember anything that was wrong or off because the experience is just so amazing, and just taking it all in is so important. We wouldn't do anything different because I do think we feel our day was perfect, but we do encourage if you can afford it to have a wedding planner or day of coordinator that will help alleviate stress. And, splurge on your photographer/videographer, costs can be daunting but truly at the end of the day those are the only memories you will have so the cost can ALWAYS be justified.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Our favorite part of our wedding day for us was being able to celebrate with our families and bring two families together and getting to see that interaction for the first time and just being surrounded by love and support. It was 100% the most special part of the day, we ended the night by saying we didn't want it to end and frequently say to this day we just want to do it all over. Really one of the best days of our lives to date!