"I found her,
and found no interest
in wasting time
looking for someone
Why spend our hours
when all we need
is before us
The internet gods brought us together! We first met face to face at a now defunct bar in The Castro called BOC where Tokyo teas and vodka shots carried us through the night. That soon lead to a classier "first date" at Nightlife at the California Academy of Sciences and the rest, as they say, is history!
Was there a proposal? Tell us about it!
“During our winter trip to Iceland in 2015, Heidi and I saw the most diverse and unique landscapes - striking mountains, mineral springs, lava fields, and beautiful waterfalls. We knew that this was the land of unicorns and vowed to come back in the summer. July 2017, my plan to propose during the midnight sun in front of Mt. Kirkjufell failed because there wasn’t a sun - the sky was completely overcast. With just a few days left in Iceland and the ring box still sitting safely in my pocket, I was motivated. I obsessively checked the weather every hour, looked at the map and our itinerary and chose a spot we both had never been to. The drive down south looked promising - the sun was out! We walked a short trail to a hidden waterfall and realized the place was almost completely private, except for one or two people. This was FINALLY going to happen! I set up my tripod and went down on one knee. I said, “I swear fealty to you” (Commander Lexa’s popular words from the show ‘The 100’) and then popped the question. She hit my arm and said “Shut up”! She thought I was joking so I asked again and she said YES!! She made me the happiest woman in the world!!”
Heidi proposes back...
“While nothing can beat Joellene's seemingly fairy-tale proposal in Iceland, I was intent on at least making it memorable! With the help of a friend I decided to do it during sunrise. Sunrises are particularly special to us. Each one is different and beautiful in its own way and let's be real, as someone who cherishes every minute of sleep, it takes a real effort to get up early to experience them! On the morning of Saturday, November 25, 2017, Joellene woke up early to go on a sunrise photo shoot with our friend Anna at the top of Slacker Hill in the Marin Headlands. Using work (and sleep) as an excuse, I declined when Joellene asked if I wanted to go with them. Unbeknownst to her, I got out of bed shortly after she left the house, rushed to my car and made the drive across the Golden Gate Bridge to the Slacker Hill parking lot. Shoutout to my buddy Anna for mapping out everything out for me and texting me to hurry my ass up the trail, mind you, this "short trail" was super steep, especially first thing in the morning without any food or water in my system! Light headed and gasping for breath, I approached as Anna had Joellene looking away as part of her shot. I pulled myself together for the surprise arrival and popped the question!”
Are you planning your wedding right away or giving yourself some time to just be engaged?
We started planning right away!
What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your spouse-to-be?
I value Heidi’s consistency. She has treated me the same in the 9 years we’ve been together. And the small rituals, the morning kisses before leaving for work and the long hugs at the end of the day, are simple yet meaningful.
What’s your favorite part of your relationship?
Being with my best friend and living our best lives. It’s the excitement in her eyes when we’re on an epic adventure and the big smile she gives when we are eating a delicious meal.
When I started H&H Weddings, I was so excited to be able to do something that I really cared about. I love and have always loved my LGBTQ+ community, but there was just one issue. That damn flag.
I consider myself a person with (mostly) good taste, which is why I've never been able to understand the rainbow flag. I love what it stands for, but, honestly, it's kind of tacky. I have to agree with Hannah Gadsby when she says it's a "bit busy."
Alas, I love Pride and I love my community, so I deal with the flag, which is why I was SO excited when Leah, of Color Pop Events, asked if I would co-host a pride party! Duh. Of course I would.
The party was an 80's themed pride party, a.k.a. the best combo ever. AND all tips went to The Center, which was incredible. If you know me, you know my two favorite words are "drag queen," so imagine my delight when my favorite drag queen in the history of drag queens was performing at the party. This was going to be good!
When I walked into the venue that night, I was totally blown away. This A list of vendors had managed to do what I thought was impossible - they created TASTEFUL rainbow decor. What the what!?!? I couldn't believe my eyes. Scroll through some of these images to see for yourself. There was a crudité table that was arranged in a rainbow, as well as a table set with a rainbow centerpiece consisting of florals and taper candles. It was perfect.
For those of you planning your events, wondering how to incorporate our symbolic rainbow flag, look no further!