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Anna Title_key Kirstie

Real Wedding
gallery Apr 23 2018
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Tell us your love story!

We me online on OkCupid, neither of us were expecting anything serious to come out of an online relationship. We had messaged back and forth for about two months before we even met in person, she had even ghosted me along the way so clearly there were low expectations. But, we finally both said "Hey, is this ever going to happen?" and we bit the bullet and set up a first date.

I was so nervous I set up for late night drinks which sure enough came back to bite me because Kristie grabbed drinks with co-workers beforehand and showed up to our date plastered! On more than one occasion she got up and forgot where our table was and thought I had left. But, the conversation was still good and I had gotten to know her for the two months prior which is why the date wasn't a complete write off. I caught up with the drinks and one thing led to the next and we have been together ever since, and it still makes for a good first date story!

What about the proposal?

We had been talking for awhile about the next step and getting married, we knew it would happen, we just didn't know when. As time went on though the conversation just became more about what are we waiting for, we know we both want this. We had plans to go hiking one day and when we woke up it was pouring so the day was a wash but our picnic stuff was still ready to go, so we had an impromptu indoor picnic. Our conversation gravitated toward the marriage conversation and Kristie said "but really, why haven't you married me yet?" and I said "I don't have a good reason, will you marry me? Like for real? I'm asking you right now!" It was completely spontaneous, no ring, no planning and the worst bottle of wine we ever had but it was us. Little did I know I had ruined her plans she had made for her own engagement surprise just 3 weeks away, her and my best friend still won't tell me what they planned because they never got their chance to shine haha!

When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?

I think we just kind of always knew. We clicked really immediately, two weeks into us dating she was on vacation for two weeks visiting family and those two weeks were agonizing to be apart.  It felt strange because we had just really started seeing each other, but at the same time everything felt natural. If you ask her she will say she knew after the second date which happened to be my birthday, and I say after the fourth date when she had to come with me to the hospital after I found out I was allergic to pineapple at dinner. Really the first week for us was so profound we just knew.

Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?

We definitely knew we wanted an outdoor wedding, something with a rustic feel and definitely not anything too large. I had had a clear vision of what I was looking for the day and Kristie luckily trusts that vision so it was easy to jump in.

What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?

The biggest surprise about planning was all the stress that set in the 3 weeks beforehand. We had done all the big things like venue, photographer, catering all relatively quickly and things seemed to come right together. But when you get down to mere days to go you realize how much little stuff there is to do to make it really come off exactly how you wanted. The easy part for us was just finding a venue and agreeing on our vendors.  We had had a clear vision and the people that we chose shared in that vision and we really connected with them. They made the wedding process easier by being so helpful and offering suggestion to help make our day what we planned. The most difficult part was in the days leading up to the wedding, handing over the reigns of this thing you have worked so hard on to other people and hope it's everything you envisioned when you walk down the aisle.

Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?

I wish we knew how useful a wedding planner or day of coordinator could be.  That would have definitely alleviated a lot of stress that piled on in the home stretch weeks.

Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?

Our advice is to stay true to yourself and your vision. The wedding is for you and your spouse and make it what you want, don't let others try and steer you from something that you want.  But also know, that when you look back on the day you won't remember anything that was wrong or off because the experience is just so amazing, and just taking it all in is so important.  We wouldn't do anything different because I do think we feel our day was perfect, but we do encourage if you can afford it to have a wedding planner or day of coordinator that will help alleviate stress. And, splurge on your photographer/videographer, costs can be daunting but truly at the end of the day those are the only memories you will have so the cost can ALWAYS be justified.

What was your favorite part of your wedding day?

Our favorite part of our wedding day for us was being able to celebrate with our families and bring two families together and getting to see that interaction for the first time and just being surrounded by love and support. It was 100% the most special part of the day, we ended the night by saying we didn't want it to end and frequently say to this day we just want to do it all over. Really one of the best days of our lives to date!

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the words

i love you

will never be

enough.

your essence

deserves more.

this is why a man

write poetry.

-Christopher Poindexter

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Whit Title_key Luke

Elopement
gallery Apr 18 2018
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Tell us your love story!

Luke and Whit’s first in a somewhat stereotypical way. It was on a Pride Weekend - Luke had been volunteering at a pro-equality booth for his company, and Whit was out wrangling his pals, making sure they were taken care of. Luke walked right up to Whit and simply asked “How tall are you?,” which Whit had already heard dozens of times that night. But this time was different -- and the two have grown, in love, together ever since.

What about the proposal?

Whit and Luke were at Whit’s parents’ house for a Sunday dinner. Whit then invited Luke into the kitchen to help clean up – which Luke knew was a bit unusual. Whit shared a story about how his father had proposed to his mother in his grandmother’s kitchen, and he offered Luke his grandmother’s watch as a token of his love.

When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?

They would have difficulty saying there was a specific time or day that either of them could say this, but even from very early on being together, they both felt that they simply weren’t interested in not being around one another. Whit has described Luke as his spiritual echo, which Luke feels is just as good a description as any other to describe their relationship.

Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?

They knew that their wedding must be filled with thoughtful spirituality and meaning, and they were not looking for an over-the-top, large-scale celebration. Avid travelers, Luke & Whit had both been enchanted by time spent exploring Paris in the previous months, and had scheduled a return trip to the city. As a city about light, ideas and art, Paris then became their host, and she treated them kindly like a friend during their special day.

Elements of the wedding festivities stretched out over a few days, which helped Luke & Whit savor it.

What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?

Their pastor, Michelle Wahila, connected them with a great team of people who were experts in their fields. After lots of advanced calls & emails passed back & forth, the able group helped everything to go smoothly during the day. During the wedding day, most everything was easy as pie, and the joyful couple simply spent the day taking in the sights, sounds, and tastes of the beautiful city of Paris on a crisp, bright day – casually snapping pictures with the most beautiful backdrops imaginable with the wonderful Krystal Kenney.

Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?

Option 1: Everyone tells you that the day will absolutely fly by. Although Luke and Whit knew this, and they worked hard to be present and simply soak in the day, it bears repeating for all others who plan to have a wedding. It’s a day about love, first and foremost, so let it be an expression of that love all day long. Simply be present, and enjoy yourself! Let the thoughtful symbols you’ve chosen become a bookend for your day’s memories.

Option 2: It’s the age of Uber/Lyft/Ridesharing, and they realized afterward that they likely could easily have relied on these options for getting around the city of Paris on their special day, without needing to rely on a scheduled driver --who may have had a bit of a challenge parking & waiting & magically appearing again-- in the bustling city of Paris.

Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?

For Luke and Whit, having a small ceremony in a city far away from where they live meant that they did not have friends and family present. Though they of course would have enjoyed sharing their special day with loved ones, ultimately they were able to focus on one another and simply enjoy themselves during this day. They had an absolutely great time, and really would not have changed a thing. Friends and family were involved in symbolic ways.

What was your favorite part of your wedding day?

Thanks to the work of some special planning help from Alisa Morov, they were able to enjoy a picnic right in front of the Eiffel Tower, filled with all manner of fresh French bounty. Their pastor, Michelle Wahila, offered communion during this time, which was truly a special moment that they were able to share, kicking off their time together with a sense of spirituality central to their relationship together. As Pastor Michelle stated – all are welcome at the table – and they hope to live their lives together with this message close to heart.

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