Thai Beach Nuptials
Tell us your love story!
It all started with a poke on Facebook which was by accident. Wesley was in a photo that was posted where he was standing next to my cousin at a work function. I wanted to poke my cousin and accidentally poked him...He still thinks it was done on purpose. From that point, the “poking back” game started which escalated to us chatting a bit and eventually exchanging contact numbers and ending up meeting for drink and a game of snooker. We chatted for hours and met up every day after that.
What about the proposal?
We dated for about 6 years and had many conversations about marriage and we both thought it was overrated. We also thought that it would complicate things in such a way that our family might never give approval as we are a same sex couple which already is a lot for them to deal with. Wesley then went behind my back and asked my parents if they would give their blessing and allow him to marry me. He knew the answer was going to be NO, but because he knew how important family was to me, he went anyway. This was on his 30th birthday. He popped the question after being at my parent’s home. I expected something, but was still unsure what he was up to. Later that evening we had a few friends over for a BBQ to celebrate his birthday and announced to all that we got engaged and killed two birds with one big celebration that lasted the whole weekend.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
To tell you the truth, on the first night we met, we knew that this was not just a “one time” thing. Our calls became longer to each other, we started sharing the same friends and most of all, we cared and loved each other so much that we were willing to be together despite the negative feedback and comments we would get from society and family. Through all the trials, we stuck together and supported each other. be it when we wrong or right, we never ever left each other’s side.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
This is a difficult one to answer. Being based in South Africa, we planned to have it in winter inside a venue that would have a more of an intimate feel. This put huge pressure on us as everyone was expecting this huge elaborate wedding. In December 2017, we decided to change everything and get married in Thailand - I mean, why not? We realized that we don’t need to please anyone but ourselves. We love traveling so this was an easy decision to make. We told our close friends and family about our plans and they jumped on the bandwagon without hesitation. So, seeing that we going to Thailand, it was just fitting to have our ceremony with the beautiful background of the beach.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
What surprised us the most was the fact that our wedding planner did way more that what we expected. The ideas she had and the samples she showed us made us trust her so much that we took a risk to pay a total stranger that we hadn’t met via Internet Banking. It was very difficult at times to communicate, as there was a 6-hour time difference between us and the planner. The scariest part was the uncertainty of what would happen if we got to Thailand and were not happy with what the wedding planner had in mind. Today, we can say with a smile that we are so happy and by her making our day look and feel so special with her meticulous style and décor, it made our day even more special and memorable.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
What we wish we would have known is merely that Thailand's weather is very unpredictable. That was the biggest stress we had, which made us rush and stress even more two days prior to the wedding to get a plan B. Thank God it was not needed. Also we would have requested that the photographer stay on for the reception as well.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Budget - Keep extra cash aside for unforeseen cost. Get a good wedding planner – they know what they doing. Make sure you get a good photographer and enjoy every single moment of the day. It goes by so fast.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
While it is difficult to pinpoint what our favorite part of the day was, I have to say that being united and recognized as legal partners means a lot! And the fact that we could spend the day with loved ones on a majestic beach was just the cherry on top.