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Christopher Vasquez, Lawrence Neuhauser "The Corporate Fiancés" The couple were married on September 4th in New York City officiated by their best friends, Lisa DaSilva and Janelle Junio at Harding's in the flatiron district. Lawrence Neuhauser, 35, is a former ballet dancer from Pardeeville, Wisconsin. Mr. Neuhauser was the lead in the Broadway National Tour of Movin’ Out as Eddie. He was also recently part of the Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo troupe for two years. He is the son of Thomas and Linda Neuhauser who were tragically killed in a fire when Mr. Neuhauser was only 3 weeks old. He is currently working at Lazard, the world's leading financial advisory and asset management firm. Mr. Vasquez, 39, is a New York City native. He graduated from Siena College in Loudonville, NY with a major in English Literature and Theatre Certificate. He currently works as an Executive Assistant in the Hearst Tower and is an avid theatre goer. Both are proud fathers of a 7 month old Chihuahua mix pup named Meeko. They met on OKCupid in 2014 with a little help from their friends.
How We Met:
Lawrence and I met on OKCupid on a fluke. I (Christopher) was having drinks with a couple of my friends when Lawrence's picture popped up on my OKCupid alert as a potential match. I was about to swipe left because I thought he was way out of my league. He had stunning pictures of himself dancing ballet, shirtless, and I thought, no way would he go for me. I left the table to go to the bathroom and accidentally left my phone unlocked. My friends opened up the app and swiped RIGHT on Lawrence's picture! By the time I got back to the table they had emailed him and even started a conversation about meeting up for drinks. I was slightly mortified. Needless to say, we had our first date 3 days later. On a frigid winter's night in early January, Lawrence and I met at a wine bar on the upper west side. We talked for hours. As a ploy to keep the date going, I asked him if we wanted to see a movie. He agreed, and since we both love horror movies, we went to see "Paranormal Activity". About half way through the movie, we held hands. I haven't let go since. Later that September, I asked him to marry me on the Rachael Ray Show. He said "of course". He is the light in my life and the better half of my heart. I cannot live without him.
What about the proposal?
I, Christopher, asked Lawrence to marry me on the Rachael Ray Show. I replied to an online search for couples looking to propose on air. I got called in almost immediately after a phone interview with one of the producers. Lawrence did not have a clue about it and, from the video, you can tell that I was very nervous to do it. I don’t even think I said the words, “Will you marry me”. I think I said something like, “Hi, so…omg, will you?” and he said YES!
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
The moment I knew was watching him take care of my mother while she was in the hospital. She had taken a fall and bumped her head which caused a blood clot. She was in the hospital for weeks. I had known Lawrence for about 3 months, but it didn’t matter. He took care of her when I couldn’t. When my mom came to, she thought he was her nurse! Unfortunately, my mother does not approve of my lifestyle, so we have not spoken for about a year now.
Man, it was pretty instant! I believe it was our 2nd date. Chris took me to a bar with a gorgeous view of Columbus Circle, and Central Park. It was a cold wintery night. During the night, Chris walked me over to the window and stood right behind me, and just held me as we looked out at all the snow and lights. I'm from a little town in WI and that was the first time I felt like I was safe and home. That's when I knew this was something big, and to never that him go!
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We were debating whether to do the wedding in Wisconsin (where Lawrence is from) or NYC (where Chris is from). We had loved The Alger House, but thought that it may be too small and cramped. We looked up affordable weddings in the city and came across Hardings. We had dinner there and fell in love with the vibe. We met with the owners and the price was right so we chose it! Turned out to be a GREAT venue for a small wedding. The food was amazing.
What surprised you during planning?
Everything!!! Both Lawrence and I find it hard to make decisions. Or, rather, sometimes we have way too many things to choose from, we have a hard time narrowing down. We finally went for a garden party theme. We designed and crafted everything ourselves. Nothing was merely store bought. Everything had a touch of homemade quality. Homey.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
We pretty much learned everything from friends and Pinterest! Things seemed to fall into place as we got closer to the date. We had about 1 ½ years to get ready, so wedding planning wasn’t that big of a hassle. One thing that was a big pain was finding men’s tuxedo shirts! There aren’t any in the city that aren’t oversized and out of style! We lucked out finding them online and at tiny store in Manhattan Mall.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Advice: if you are going the DIY route, talk to people, have consultations with wedding invitation designers like Paper Source, and Papyrus. Ceci New York invitation designer is my favorite but so out of price range. Go and talk and use that for inspiration. Plan the budget for trial and error, Pinterest, and Etsy are your best friends! Buy in bulk! I was so afraid to commit to something. But once you do make that first commitment, everything will start to fall into place. The earlier you start the better! Delegate things to people. My best friend did all the flowers. Chris and I picked them out but she put them all together, and did our boutonnières. Chris's cousin, my cousin now, was our onsite coordinator and helped with shopping for miscellaneous things (she has a car, that helps). Our best friends were the officiants, and I definitely recommend that! It made the whole day so much more personal, and really meaningful! Remember, the day goes by so fast! One thing I regret not having is a videographer. Take a step back, and think about all the love, because it is overwhelming.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Every. Single. Moment.