Tell us your love story!
We were set up by our respective best friends. Benjamin’s friend, Buthna, convinced him to go to a surprise party that Ryan was hosting for his friend, Tina. A few mojitos and some several sick dance moves was all it took!
What about the proposal?
True to form, we both hedged on the proposal. We spoke about marriage at length, but not being the super romantic types, felt awkward and too-cool-for-school to make it anything that it was not. Therefore, it happened on the sofa in our pajamas on a Wednesday night, our pup the sole witness. Benjamin bought Ryan a Burberry bag. Inside the bag was a card that told him to pack his bag for an engagement trip to Copenhagen.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
When we realized that we had the most fun when doing things together and began sharing our interests, families, and friends with each other.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
Our main objective was to throw a party that no one would forget. A big part of this was to have a live band. To do this, we had to compromise on others things, but it was TOTALLY worth it.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Difficult: Costs - not that we didn’t know that it would be a big expense. However, when planning the budget, one is unaware of how some of the expenses work - packages, rules, etc. It’s not as straightforward as one would think. Easy: Not having a sit down dinner made all the difference in the world - NO SEATING CHARTS!
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Be more aggressive in tracking down RSVPs with a personal contact. It’s hard to put yourself in your guests’ position - they aren’t thinking of the wedding as much as you are. We would also lower our estimates and temper our expectations for attendance to the extra activities.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Don’t sweat every detail. The day will be amazing! Make a list of the three most important aspects of your event and put your money there. The rest will fall into place. We would have liked to have had room in the budget for a videographer so that we could have captured the ceremony. I think we were overwhelmed with how special it was and how much of a blur everything becomes once it’s all over.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
We both loved our ceremony. It was very personal and it felt like all of our guests were part of it. With all the chaos that ensues, it was such a nice surprise to stop and breathe during that 25 minutes and just be in the moment. We are so glad we spent time planning out the ceremony details.