Tell us your love story/how did you meet?
Louis and I met each other through the wonders of technology on a December 2009 evening at a Starbucks in Mid-Town Manhattan. Over what was most likely two PSL's, I was swept away by Louis's baby blue eyes and perfectly quaffed hair, whereas Louis informed me that my angelic face captivated him. I also had bigger hair back then.
What about the proposal?
Louis originally wanted to propose to me in the Icelandic cave where Jon Snow and Ygritte went skinny dipping on the beloved HBO series, Game of Thrones. However, it was overrun by Spanish tourists. Louis took a second chance at the remote waterfall of Aldeyarfoss after off-roading on a dirt road for two hours - through sheep, horse and lava fields. Before I could snap another photo of the roaring falls, Louis proposed to me on one knee. To my delight I exclaimed, "OH REALLY?!" and accepted Louis's proposal with tears of glee.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
When the words, “I love you” were shared after being together for a while, we continued to nurture our relationship that led to deeper commitment and care towards each other. Louis and I never thought that marriage would be a viable option until the US Supreme Court ruled in 2015 that the Constitution guaranteed a right to same-sex marriage. At that point, we already took the plunge in purchasing a house and getting a dog together, which was a symbolic gesture that we were in it for the long haul. With the court ruling and Beyoncé’s “Single Ladies” on our daily play list, marriage appeared the next logical choice. Plus, who doesn’t love a party with your family and friends?
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We definitely wanted a space that captured our interest and personalities. We identified our shared likes such as a love for autumn, plants, and a touch of whimsy and luxury. We also took our guests into consideration regarding how difficult it would be for them to travel. Once we decided on Jardin de Buis as our venue, it was a bit easier to explore how to incorporate other aspects of ourselves into our wedding experience.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
The cost! And how quickly everything can add up! We knew that weddings can get expensive, but we were surprised by the overwhelming options available. I never knew there were so many transportation options for guests, how expensive calligraphers are, and how fancy port-o-potties can be! It is easy to get swept up and overwhelmed in the details.
What helped immensely was printing out a checklist from a wedding website to keep us on track during the planning process. Once we figured out venue and caterer, everything began to fall into place.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
As mentioned, it is easy to get swept away by the details from the type of chairs you can have to the type of cutlery available. I think we both could have helped with a little more self-care throughout the planning process with setting a time limit on how deep you’re going to get into planning on any particular day.
If you have the opportunity to delegate parts that you don’t want to do, don’t be afraid to ask.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Wedding planning is not fun. It can be fun at times if you’re creative and up to the challenge, but don’t think that it will be a cakewalk (pun intended).
Consider hiring a videographer! We were lucky that we won a videographer through a wedding sweepstake. We were so glad we have a video of our big day as it captured a different and slightly richer dimension than traditional photography could. There’s something more intimate in hearing each other’s voices and seeing our loved ones in motion. Plus, it’s the closest that we’ll ever look like movie stars!
If you can afford it, having a wedding coordinator at least for the day of your event may help you and your partner immensely. They were able to allow us to really enjoy ourselves and not have to think about anything except to have a good time! Don’t hesitate to ask friends to pitch in to help as well; friends helped from DJing, procuring our favors, to picking up dessert.
Lastly, keep your focus on what your wedding day/event is for. No one is going to remember (at least I hope) the type of china that was used, the thread count of the napkins, or the color of your wedding invitation envelopes. As long as you keep the focus on celebrating your union, everything will hopefully fall into place!
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
I took the advice of our suit guy who recommended taking the time during the wedding to just “be in the moment.” Our wedding day flew by, but there were conscious moments where we could pause and remind ourselves to soak everything in. Some of our favorite moments were walking up to our ceremony site to see all our loved ones gathered together in one place.
From exchanging vows, to the speeches, the food, and dancing, it was all great!
- Photography By The R2 Studio
- Venue By Jardin de Buis
- Catering By Laurence Craig Catering
- Florals & Design By Louis Guerra Design
- Videography By NST Pictures
- Rentals By RPD Executive Coach
- Harpist By Enki Bello
- Lighting & Sound By Power Posse Production
- Rentals By Party Rental Ltd.
- Event Coordination By Majestic Moments Events