Kids can be a great addition to weddings; they are adorable
when they dance, they make almost every picture better and they are the perfect
ring bearers and flower tossers. However, not everyone wants tots to attend
their marital ceremony. We’re here to help you make it clear to your friends
and family that you are excited to spend the day with them, but not their rug
Children tend to be a touchy subject, so in a situation like
this, we suggest being overly polite about things.
First and foremost, this is your day and if you don’t want
kids there, that’s your prerogative. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about
that decision. Besides, depending on the location and setting of your wedding
and reception, children might not be appropriate guests.
If you are inviting many people who have children, the best
first step is to make the invitations straight forward and firm. Stating, “You
and one guest are invited,” or, “We love your munchkins, but this is a grownup
shindig,” makes the message clear; this won’t be romper room.
If the invitation isn’t explicit enough and you get the
sense that a guest may be planning on bringing their children, it’s best to
face the problem head-on. You or your partner (whoever is closer to the guest)
should call to cordially uninvite the little ones. Chalking it up to a
misunderstanding keeps things copasetic. Another option is to make it about the
kids and parents. “ I just don’t think they’d have a good time,” or, “We want
to spend quality time with you, without the distraction of children.” Both of
these convey the message you are trying to get across.
Ultimately, if the guest is not getting what you're trying
to say, you may just have to be blunt. It's the least favorable option, but you
reserve the right to have your wedding the way you want it and no one should
get in the way of that.