This week's etiquette post is brought to you by the wonderful, Jenn Bean. She is the owner of Marry Me Ceremonies, a wedding officiating service. In the second installment of her guest post, Jenn gives couples a few more ideas for making their ceremony exclusively theirs. It's always a good idea to shift focus onto the newlyweds, which is why we are loving these unique ideas! Here is what Jenn had to say...
Your wedding ceremony is what your celebration is all about and should set the tone for the rest of the day! Little details can express your style as a couple and add fun to your ceremony and celebration. I hope these following ideas inspire you to think creatively about your ceremony and find new ways to express your love, reflect your relationship, and include loved ones on your big day!
1. Identify quotes and poems that reflect your relationship. Having a friend or family do a reading is a great way to include special people in your ceremony. Quotes provide a nice transition between ceremony sections.
2.Include fun stories about the two of you, ex. How you met, the proposal, when you knew the other was "the one". This provides an intimate look at your relationship and is a great way to add humor and fun!
3. Make it a community event! Instead of the traditional "giving away the bride," ask all parents, family, and/or guests to stand when asked "Who supports this couple," have them respond "We do."
4. Incorporate wedding traditions from your cultural heritage and/or something that symbolizes the joining of your lives. Through the magic of the internet you can find almost unlimited options! My favorites include the Jewish tradition of breaking a glass at the end of the ceremony, the Japanese Sake Ceremony (you get to drink during the wedding!), and the Truce Bell, where a bell is rung on your wedding day celebrating the happiest day of your lives. The Bell is then placed in a central location in the home and if you start to argue, one of you can ring the truce bell, reminding you of that happiness and hopefully ending the disagreement quickly.
5. Ask guests for relationship advice. You can have fun notecards and pens available during the reception or, depending on the size of your wedding, you can include in the actual ceremony or during speeches via open microphone. This works best for 75 guests or less.Â For larger weddings you can ask a select group of friends and family for statements your Officiant can include in your ceremony.