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etiquette / article Jun 8 2016

Technology At Your Wedding


Technology improves so many facets of our lives these days. It takes ten minutes to order groceries from your smartphone, and you can make anyone look like a Kardashian in a matter of seconds. There are plenty of negatives to the growing tech world too - people are glued to their devices, constantly distracted.  

These days, it can be a big decision for a couple to make; should we allow the use of cell phones, or politely request that they be turned off? We’re here to help you make that decision!  

If you're thinking about allowing cell phones at your wedding and reception, there are a few things to think about. It's perfectly acceptable to ask that guests not take photos with the flash. It can interrupt your photographer'™s shots and be a general disturbance to the day. Specifically during your ceremony, it'™s best to have a sign mentioning that the couple would appreciate it if guests didn't take pictures (that is why you're paying your photographer, after all). It's also a good idea to reiterate that all sounds should be disabled.  

Back when disposable cameras were all the rage, people used to put them out on tables for the reception, in hopes of seeing some of the fun, silly moments that they may have missed. Now, we see couples asking that you hashtag images taken at their wedding so they can have a fun little online album from Twitter and Instagram. We think this is a great idea. People are so attached to their phones and so used to using them for social media purposes. Asking guests to hashtag photos adds an interactive aspect to your big day and allows you many, many #tbt opportunities!  

If you’re considering asking your guests not to use devices at your wedding, there are a few things to think about, too! First and foremost, you are asking people to set down the device that they are probably holding (or near to) for about three quarters of the day. Talk about separation anxiety! During the ceremony, it’s certainly acceptable for the couple to ask guests to pocket phones. It keeps things quiet, intimate and it keeps all eyes on the newlyweds! After the ceremony, things can get a bit sticky. Your guests have lives outside of your wedding which may include kids, pets, significant others. You can’t ask that they not call the babysitter to check in on the kids. You can, however, have a designated area, within the reception venue, where guests can be directed to make phone calls and send text messages. Keep in mind that guests may spend more time here than you’d like.  

As times change, so do the rules for etiquette! Keep in mind that there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to issues like this, just go with your gut!

Photo Credit: Katie Osgood Photography

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