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etiquette / article Mar 20 2017

Proposals

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Years ago, when H&H Weddings was founded, same sex marriage wasn't legal. At that time, couples would either have to travel to the select states that had instated marriage equality or have their own (not legally recognized) wedding. Laws couldn't prevent us from committing our lives together, it just complicated other aspects of life where, legally, having a spouse was involved.

As soon as marriage equality was in effect, many couples that had been together for years decided to tie the knot, legally. 

For many of the couples who were in preexisting long-term relationships, this just felt like the safe thing to do. In essence, they had been married for years, just not protected by the law. For others, it was finally their time to shine. We got SO many submissions from couples who were dating when marriage equality passed. They were ecstatic as they planned their wedding. 

It's interesting how the proposal in a queer relationship is not cut-and-dry. There's no real guidelines to how it all works. Over the next two days, we are featuring a couple where each bride-to-be surprised and proposed to the other. Plenty of other couples decide over morning coffee that the timing is just right. The greatest part of being part of this community is that we get to break rules, make up our own and do what genuinely feels right for us as unique and individual humans. 

We wanted to do a little proposal coverage, as we've seen so many amazing proposals over the years! There is no right or wrong way to do it, but maybe you'll read this and something will hit home for you, or provide you with a bit of clarity on how your own proposal should look.

1. One person proposes to the other:

This is probably the most common proposal that we see! It's also the most traditional. One of the things we love reading about the most is when both members of the couple sort of end up in a race to propose to the other. It's incredible how many couples will plan to propose to each other on the same day/weekend/trip. Often, if both people were planning to propose, there will be a follow up proposal for the second one. In a way, it ends up being an unintentional dual proposal. 

2. Mutual decision:

For a lot of folks, the idea of a surprise proposal seems overwhelming or just "not them." If you aren't into the pomp and circumstance, we totally get it! Many couples will just make a choice together watching tv one night or on a walk with the dog. It doesn't have to be a production if you don't want it to.

3. Dual Proposals:

Many LGBTQ+ couples will decide that it's time for them to get married and then each member of the couple will go about planning their own proposal. Often they aren't coordinated in any way. It's just about each member of the couple having their turn to tell the other one how they feel and why they want to commit to them. 

There are endless number of ways to start your lives together and we love hearing all of them!

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etiquette / article Mar 15 2017

Destination Weddings

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Destination weddings have been growing steadily in popularity over the last several years, yet more recently took their rightful spot in the rapidly emerging same-sex wedding market. Exchanging “I Do’s” away from home amongst family and friends is popular with LGBTQ couples who may be unable to legally wed at home, as well as those who seek to honor cultural ties or long-lived obsessions with exotic locales. Whatever the reason to celebrate a destination wedding, there are special considerations unique to this market that every couple should know.

Legality: When researching the destination for your wedding, you will want to know whether or not local laws permit and recognize same-sex marriages. If they do not, but you still decide to pursue a wedding in your chosen region, you may need to hold a legal ceremony at home, then have a symbolic destination ceremony. Some of the top destination spots for same-sex couples include Cape Town, Iceland, Paris, Stockholm and Oslo- all of which recognize same-sex marriage. Domestically, couples are in particular making their way to New York City, Hawaii, Boston and California.  

Climate: When you think “climate” and “destination wedding” your first mental image is probably of you sitting on a beach with sunscreen in one hand and an umbrella-accented drink in the other. However, LGBTQ couples have a much more serious climate to acknowledge: the state of recognition and acceptance of same-sex marriage in your chosen destination. Among the popular countries that recognize marriage equality are Great Britain, France, Spain, Canada, and New Zealand. For those interested in a symbolic ceremony, the Riviera Maya and Cancun have been popular in recent years, recognized for their hospitality and welcoming environment.

Personalization: No matter where you decide to hold your wedding, invest time and energy in creating a personal experience for yourselves and your guests. You don’t have to be at home to customize the day and make it “yours.” Choose meaningful designs and motifs, craft playlists of your favorite songs, and write vows that speak to your hearts. Every aspect of your celebration should honor your love and relationship, so take the time together to determine how you will express yourself during your destination wedding. The result will be a lifetime of memories and a beautiful beginning to your journey together.  

Megan Velez is the Vice President of Product at Destination Wedding Travel Group, the world's leading destination wedding and romantic travel planning company. Destination Wedding Travel Group, which encompasses GayDestinationWeddings.com, DestinationWeddings.com and LuxuriousDestinationWeddings.com, has worked with over 20,000 couples and half a million guests to plan dream destination weddings around the world. For more information, visit DestinationWeddings.com

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etiquette / article Mar 8 2017

Purple

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We are itching for spring around here, even though it's been unseasonably warm recently. We love the fresh feeling of a spring wedding. One of our favorite hues for this season? Purple! It works with florals, attire, accessories, decor and even drinks! It's typically not overstated and there are so many lovely shades to chose from! Considering monochrome? Consider a few shades of purple to add depth and layers! 

We love adding pops of purple in unexpected ways like shoes or a lady tie from Becoming Neckwear

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etiquette / article Mar 1 2017

Bowman Buds

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We all know that when it comes to wedding flowers, roses are always ‘in’ and carnations are always ‘out’. But what about artichokes? And cabbage? Yes, they are both tasty if roasted and dipped in a nice garlic aioli, but they can also look gorgeous in flower arrangements. Allie Webber of Bowman and Clark, an event planning and floral design shop in Atlanta, is an expert on using untraditional buds. I talked to her about some of the unexpected flowers, succulents, and berries she incorporates into wedding bouquets and boutonnieres to make them elegant and unique.    

Allie and her husband and business partner, Bill, love using a wide variety of florals in their designs. They use such a variety that they now document each one so they won’t forget what they’ve used! Instagram #bowman_buds started as a reference for Bowman and Clark, but has turned into a place where anyone can search and find florals with their names. Allie and Bill enjoy teaching people about flowers and the myriad of options there are for weddings arrangements. They want to keep adding to their list and hope that someday other florists will use the hashtag for their own flower photos, creating the ultimate floral archive.    

Here are some of Allie’s favorite buds of the moment. Maybe they can inspire you to add some funky florals to your wedding!   

Artichokes: 

Yes, these are a food! They are also super fun to use in an arrangement. Artichokes have such a lovely color and their unique texture adds depth to modern, greenery heavy arrangements. Deep purple artichokes look stunning next to succulents and purple cabbage in a bouquet. The pairing of light green artichokes and contrasting buds like raspberries or blackberries are a fresh alternative to rustic boutonnieres.    

King Protea: 

How can you not love these?! King protea come in a wide variety of colors and sizes. Like artichokes, they bring a unique texture to arrangements. In a bouquet, light pink king protea look gorgeous next to blush colored roses and bright green hypericum berries. They are also so darn cool that they make a statement all on their own!   

Andromeda (or pieris): 

We love these sweet little guys. They are dainty and light, yet they bring so much life to any arrangement. In coordinating spring bouquets and boutonnieres, light green andromeda look stunning with brightly colored pink and purple ranunculus.   

Flowering Air Plants:

Allie used flowering air plants in a bouquet recently. They were for a southwest inspired photoshoot full of bright pops of color and lots of greenery. In a spring bouquet, we love flowering air plants with light pink king protea, pink baby roses and mint green succulents. In a boutonniere, flowering plants look best wrapped in simple ribbon. The great part about these plants is that afterward you can keep them and they last forever with just a little misting of water once in a while. You don’t even have to plant them!   

Blackberries: 

Wild blackberries are the epitome of summer. They bring an organic touch to any arrangement. We love adding these freshly picked, garden inspired stems to a boho bouquet filled with Queen Ann’s lace, ferns, and peach roses. For a boutonniere, try using ripe luscious blackberries with sprigs of wheat and a contrasting yellow rose.     

Scabiosa:  

Scabiosas are one of Allie'€™s all time favorite flowers. They are sweet and delicate with a little attitude. They come in a range of beautiful colors. Deep red  scabiosas look elegant in a bouquet with calla lilies and king protea of the same color. Light green scabiosas make a great accompaniment to succulents in a spin on a traditional boutonniere.

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etiquette / article Feb 16 2017

Navy

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As far as we're concerned, navy blue can do no wrong! It's perfect for every season, for every occasion and, if you can't tell, we'd like to see more of it! We did a quick round up of some of our fave navy inspo for you! From bow ties, to cocktail napkins to wedding party attire...we're digging the deep hue! 

We all know the old adage "Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue." It's a tradition that many of couples embrace, but what if your "something blue" was a beautiful bow tie? Or these gold foil cocktail napkins? There is an endless number of ways that to incorporate this shade into any soirée! These are just a few of our faves! Want more blue inspiration in your life?! Follow our Blue Pinterest board!

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