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Planning a wedding is stressful enough without having to worry about etiquette guidelines. Let us help you out!

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etiquette / q & a Dec 5 2018

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My wife and I are unsure about taking last names. Any suggestions?

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Taking last names can be tricky in queer relationships. One of you isn't traditionally "supposed" to take the other person's name. 

Many couples say they always knew who would take the other partner's last name, but for some couples it is less clear. If it isn't important to you, don't feel pressure to change your name at all, but if you're thinking about it, taking last names can be a great way to start your life together!

Hyphenated last names seem to have some sort of stigma (What about the kids?!), but I think they are great. It's the most egalitarian way to go about this name-taking business. It's a simple, equal solution.

However, if you are not interested in taking on two last names, you could always create a name that is a combination of both of your last names. This is actually really sweet and unique, although does require both of you to legally change your names. It can also be tricky, depending on your last names. 

Whatever you chose to do, don't feel pressure to change your name in a way that makes you uncomfortable. This is what you'll be addressed as for the rest of your life. 

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etiquette / article Jul 25 2018

Electronic Save-The-Dates

Recently, a friend asked if I thought that an electronic save-the-date was a bad idea. This friend is planning a wedding in three months due to timing with family from out of town. Given this situation, I said that an e-save-the-date was absolutely acceptable. But what about for everyone else?  

I was shocked when I signed onto Paperless Post to send my mom an e-card a few months back. Could it be, an electronic thank you note is elegant?! Well, it’s true. More and more companies are providing us with high-end alternatives to actual paper goods. While we love a beautiful save-the-date hanging on our fridge, we can definitely get behind the eco-friendly option of electronically sending them.  

As with all decisions around your wedding, there are a few things to consider…  

-Cost. E-save-the-dates are definitely much less expensive than their customized paper counterparts.  

-Efficiency. It would probably take about two or three hours to design and send out paperless save-the-dates, whereas traditional versions can take up to a month to create and even longer for the finished product to show up at your door. Then you have to go about addressing and sending via snail mail.  

-Aesthetic. If you are having a formal ceremony, you might opt for traditional, paper save-the-dates, as they are the first impression your guests receive.  

-Ease. Yes, e-save-the-dates seem as though they would save a lot of time, money and energy, but what about those guests who don’t have email? This means you will probably have to call your grandparents to tell them about the ceremony (unless they are way more tech savvy than mine and they actually use email!). Furthermore, many of the save-the-dates may end up in a spam folder, which means additional phone calls.  

As you plan and make your list of priorities with your spouse-to-be, consider all of your options and where you might like to save a bit of time and energy! Paperless correspondence is a perfect alternative for many couples!    

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etiquette / article Jun 20 2018

The Wedding Party

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A question came in last week about what to call a wedding party. It can get a little tricky if you're sticking to traditional wedding roles. These grooms-to-be aren't keen on calling their wedding party a "bridal party" because that doesn't make sense for them. So, what are these grooms to do?

Our suggestion is simple; make it your own! Your wedding day should feel unique, special, and completely your own. Calling them "Courtney's Crew" or "Ben's Brood" makes it fun and personal. If you are going for a more formal feel, calling the party "Honorary Attendants" or even just "The Wedding Party," keeps things neutral, but structured. You could also play with something like "Love Party Patrol" or "Love Party Posse." 

Ultimately, these are the people who want you to be happy and surrounded by love. They probably don't really care what you call them, as long as you are content with your wedding.

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etiquette / article Dec 29 2017

Best of 2017

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There are many things that I wish I could tell vendors before they start planning styled shoots, but I think the very first thing would be to find models with chemistry, whether or not they are a real couple. Nothing makes me more disappointed when the details and styling are beautiful, but the couple is obviously uncomfortable. Most models are professionals and know how to pose and act, but often times, vendors end up asking their friends to model, which can be hugely detrimental to the outcome of the finished product. 

All of that being said - these are three styled shoots that did not disappoint! 

First and foremost, the more variations of suiting we can find for female bodies, the better (in my opinion). I adore this Splash of Citrus Styled Shoot. It is bright and it has just the right amount of edge to peak my interest. There were so many incredible details (like a marble cake that is to-die-for). You should really do yourself a favor and check it out! Also, apparently plant jewelry is a thing now and I am completely obsessed. {Photo Credit: Sarah Mack Photography}

Mrs & Mrs balloons are actually always a good idea. Case-in-point? This gorgeous styled shoot that was planned for a real couple. There are massive floral headpieces, pineapples and monster bouquets, brimming with bright hues. It's everything you want out of a feminine, fun, summertime styled shoot! {Photo Credit: Taylor Bellais Photo}

Nothing could have prepared me for what I was about to experience with this gothic, elegant, tattoo-filled styled shoot. It's everything I never knew I needed with a side of huskies (which I obviously always knew I needed.) This shoot is equal parts classic - with gold calligraphy and blush details - and completely out of the box - with these ah-mazing models, live tattoos on set and floral necklaces for the pups that make their eyes pop. If you missed this one, you're going to want to set aside a good couple of hours to dig in and enjoy this beauty. {Photo Credit: Jess Palatucci Photography}

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etiquette / article Dec 28 2017

Best of 2017

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It's hard to get an engagement shoot just right. Often, couples are uneasy in front of the camera (at least on their wedding day, they have booze to calm their nerves!). And engagement sessions can be super corny. So, how do you avoid that? My advice? Comfy clothes and a heavy dose of you being you.  

I love when couples snuggle up at home for their engagement sessions. I know my home is where I am most comfortable and it always feels so genuine seeing a couple in their own space. When Meghan and Amanda's engagement shoot came my way, it was love at first sight. They are so loving and at ease. It felt like I got to spend a Sunday morning with them, which was so beautiful. {Photo Credit: Brina Debalinhard}

Jorie and Jaime's seaside e-sesh feels like the epitome of Pacific Northwestern beauty. It's romantic, it's moody, it's scenic. Also, can we please talk about that tee? {Photo Credit: Peter Amend}

One of the most important ingredients in a successful engagement shoot? SNUGGLING. Ally and Jac had this down to a science. They set up a picnic blanket, snuggled. They wandered their city, snuggled. They sat on ledges, snuggled. I love that it really gives you a sense of how much these two love each other. {Photo Credit: K. Willerick Photography}

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