if you got any more beautiful
the sun would leave it's place
and come for you
the chase - rupi kaur
We met online on a dating website for women. It was just the day Laura decided to delete her account, when Mara found her profile and wrote her a message. Just in time, Laura responded. Mara spent a semester abroad in Warsaw while Laura studied in Cologne. So, the first weeks we wrote each other long messages back and forth and at some point we switched to telephoning. It was planned that Mara would come home to Cologne for Christmas to spend the days with her family. We used this opportunity after writing to each other for about six weeks to finally see each other live and in-person for the very first time. The excitement and expectations were endless, but everything went perfect and the rest is history.
What about the proposal?
The proposal took place on summer vacation in 2016 in Portugal. Laura prepared and bought a beautiful engagement ring and hid it in her shoes during the vacation, so Mara would not find it.
Laura prepared a nice picnic, packed a bottle of wine and snacks to watch the sun set on a cliff with a beautiful view on the Atlantic Ocean. Laura set the blanket, the wine and the snacks and told Mara how beautiful she was and how much she ́d love her when she finally asked to marry her. Of course she said yes!!
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
To be honest, we actually knew very early on that we belonged together. When you write to each other for almost six weeks and have endless conversations over the phone, you get to know each other in a very special way. It's easy to see whether you share the same sense of humor, whether your attitudes and expectations of life fit together, and what things you like and don't like. In this very special way, there were only two options when I first met her: Either she would be the wife or the best friend I could imagine. Both have happened and I think that makes for a good relationship.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We definitely knew we wanted a summer wedding. The location should definitely be in Cologne or close by and the reception should take place outdoors (between beautiful old trees). We definitely knew both would marry in white dresses.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
In terms of planning, everything went smoothly because we both had the same expectations for the day like the schedule for the day, decorations and guests. Difficult for the both of us was to hide the dresses from each other and to not be able to ask the other one if the dress is nice and suits and just rely on the saleslady.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
That you don’t have to be too critical with the wedding and yourself. No one will say that they did not like the wedding because the menu didn’t match the invitation card.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
You cannot plan everything!
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
The atmosphere on our wedding day touched us the most. It was full of love and openness. All friends and family members contributed to the fact that we were floating on a cloud from morning till night. There were numerous surprises: a song performed together during the wedding ceremony, another song by all family members, touching speeches, a cookbook with favorite recipes of all guests and a band of friends who had played a very special set. Each of these surprises stands alone and has managed to touch us deeply. Our wonderful witnesses kept our backs free and gave us even time for each other.
is what taught me
is no fucking joke."