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"And you can tell everybody this is your song

It may be quite simple, but now that it's done

I hope you don't mind

I hope you don't mind that I put down in words

How wonderful life is, now you're in the world"

Your Song, Elton John

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Randy Title_key Brian

Real Wedding
gallery Mar 12 2019
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How did you meet and start dating? How did you get engaged?

We met at a pizza party in the Castro, which ended in a night of dancing at Toad Hall. Totally classy. I told Brian that I needed feedback for a website I was building for a graduate school class that I was taking. As he began to scroll through the content featuring an engagement photoshoot I did with our dog, he began to realize that I was actually proposing to him and this was indeed our wedding website (which I had been working on for months). After he said "Yes!" I began to reveal all of the pages on our wedding website and told him I recorded it all with the help of my MacBook camera!

Tell us about the rings!

I like fancy things and he does not care about that stuff. So, my engagement ring is yellow gold with a little diamond from Cartier and his is basically a rubber band from REI. For our wedding rings, he ended up with a platinum band from Amazon and I got a platinum band with a little diamond from Cartier. Also, we bought our own rings after we got engaged because it was more efficient to do so.

Did you work with a certain them or design motif? Please describe in detail why you chose this aesthetic, and how you carried it throughout your wedding.

Less is more. It's how we live our life. There's a time and place for being a little extra, and of course we indulge, but we've found simplicity allows us to focus on the important things and to not get distracted with noise. The venue was stunning and spoke for itself and we didn't want to detract from that. Where we did have to bring in stuff, we wanted it to be really nice, yet simple. This allowed us to focus on making sure we were thoughtful about guests, having great food and quality wine, an amazing time dancing, and allowing us and our guests to just enjoy the time together.

How did you decide on your look? Please describe your attire & accessories. And tell us about your wedding party: What did they wear?

We wanted to be comfortable. And we wanted matching suits that were going to photograph well. I also found that spending a lot on a suit does not make it nice. So we got our blue suits from the JCrew Factory website, in the clearance section, with an additional 50% off along with our belts and socks. Our suits were $110 each. We got our matching ties (in our favorite colors) from ties.com for $20 each. And our dress shirts from Calvin Klein for 75% off for $25 each. Brian wore his cute brown shoes he already had. In the spirit of being extra, I bought a pair of Balenciaga boots. And we wore the same Tiffany stays that we gave to our brothers and dads and carried the same style of Hermes handkerchiefs in green and blue to complete the colors of the rainbow that we gave to our sisters, mom, and stepmom. We did not have a wedding party. Instead our entire immediate family participated in the ceremony. We had flower moms, ring dads, all seven of our siblings participated in the spoken part of the ceremony and acted as a team of officiants, and our nieces and nephew walked us down the aisle. We told them to wear whatever they wanted and that the dress code was chic but not black tie. We wanted them to feel free to express their best selves in a way that was comfortable for them.

Tell us about your flowers.

Our sister in law Debbie was so kind to offer to do flowers for us. To keep things simple and focused we only had one flower arrangement. Brian's mom passed away right before we started to date. Her favorite flower was a sunflower. My mom's favorite flower is yellow roses. And Brian's step mom's favorite flower is sweet peas. We wanted Brian's mom to be there with us as well, so we had my mom and Brian's step mom walk down the aisle with our dads with their favorite flowers in hand and had them add their flowers to the existing arrangement that already had sunflowers in it. The succulent boutonnieres for me, Brian, and Bennett and the succulent headpiece for Nea reminded both Brian and I of our moms. It's also why there were succulents on the tables as well.

Please describe your ceremony. How did you decorate the space and the aisle? Did you include any traditions? What were your processional and recessional songs?

Simplicity was the guiding principle here. The backdrop of the trees and the fog was more beautiful than anything I could have artificially added to the backdrop. The ceremony had no traditions at all. We had flower moms who walked down the aisle with our ring dads. Our niece and nephew walked us down the aisle to "Rise Up" by Andra Day. Our siblings gave a brief history of marriage (in)equality over the past 15 years. We had non-religious readings from an Astrophysicist and a Supreme Court Justice. Signed our marriage license in front of everyone because that was the focus of our ceremony. Our vows were our own and were sure to say "I do." We were pronounced as husbands and kissed as people cheered and "Sunlight" by The Magician played. Instead of a recessional, all the guest got up and we took an "everyone" photo on the lawn which segued into the cocktail hour.

Please describe your reception.

We chose the Brazilian Room at Tilden Park in Berkeley, CA because it was naturally beautiful, symbolic of our future life in Berkeley, and our money was going to future maintenance of such an awesome public space. To round out the dollar store candles and candle holders and mini DIY succulent pots that I got at bulk discount, we went with glasses, utensils, and plates with clean lines that served as simple vessels for the food. We had 15 little courses that came out in waves throughout the celebratory hour and reception that paired nicely with our alcoholic signature drink (the "Pound My Aperol") and our non-alcoholic signature drink (the "Shrub One Out"). There were 5 little desserts and wedding cake as well -- all of which were just so wonderful. Brian and I gave a 2 minute speech thanking our guests, and "Formation" by Beyonce kicked off the crazy dancing that took place thereafter.

Is there any advice you’d like to share with future couples?

Do whatever the fuck you want.    

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A Thought For Thursday
gallery Mar 7 2019
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"true love is not born

and it has no death.

it is only to be

learned. felt. realized. 

and once it is, it is

never forgotten."

JmStorm

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CC Title_key Ayron

Real Wedding
gallery Mar 5 2019
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A Beautiful Beach Wedding

Tell us your love story!

They met at the shoe store they were both working at. Ayron was the assistant manager, and CC was a sales associate. When CC was hired, the store manager told Ayron that she would really like the new associate he just hired---and that was definitely true. CC was attending college in Milwaukee, and came back to Madison to work on the weekends (which was about an hour a way). CC and Ayron worked together for over a year, and randomly started chatting online. They would talk for hours, and got along great. They started hanging out, and really hit it off. Finally, Ayron decided to tell CC how she felt because CC was oblivious to the subtle hints that Ayron was dropping. Ayron told CC that she wanted to date her, and CC said that she was into Ayron too, so they began a relationship. They were together long distance for about a year, and then Ayron found a job in Milwaukee, and moved to be with CC. They have been together ever since! They have been together since 5/6/07--11 ½ years.

What about the proposal?

CC planned a trip to New York she rented an awesome flat in Queens with the plan that she was going to propose to Ayron. CC really wanted to go to the botanical gardens, which Ayron thought was odd, because she really had no interest in the gardens, but CC knew Ayron would really like it. It was a hot day at the end of August, and riding the subway was miserable. For some reason, CC insisted on bringing her coat—which was weird and should have been a dead giveaway. They walked around the gardens, and stopped at the lily pond outside of the atrium. The lilies were is bloom and it was beautiful. It was a weekday, and not many people were around. CC took Ayron to a bench next to the lilies (she was sweating bullets), and sat her down, CC explained how she wanted to spend the rest of her life with Ayron. She explained that she knew that Ayron really wanted to get engaged, and she pulled the box out of her coat, and popped the question. It was perfect because Ayron is an introvert, and wouldn’t have wanted many people around. Ayron was shocked because they had looked at rings, and she had picked a much smaller ring, but CC being CC went on Ayron’s Pinterest, and found her dream ring pinned, and that was the one she had purchased. Of course, Ayron said yes on 8/31/2016.

When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?

Ayron and CC didn’t go into the relationship thinking this is the person I want to be with forever, instead, they just sort of rolled with the punches. They saw each other through some really hard times, and that support and devotion is what solidified their relationship. There really wasn’t one defining moment, but they couldn’t see being without each other.

Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?

We knew we wanted an intimate destination wedding. We only wanted our closest friends and family at the ceremony/reception. We also knew we wanted to have delicious food, at one big table, under the moonlight and string lights. We wanted it to feel like dinner with your family on a really important day.

What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?

Honestly, Darren from Bliss Wedding Spectacular was amazing. We started planning two years in advance, and it was easy. He gave us options, and we made choices, and that was pretty much it. The rest we left in his hands, and it was awesome! If anyone ever asks me if they should get a wedding planner, I say yes, especially for a destination wedding. It allowed for us to enjoy the day, and just be with each other.

Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?

Nope. We let Darren worry about that, and he had all our bases covered.

Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?

First, get a wedding planner. Second, get a great photographer, and spend the extra money for more time with them. Look at their Instagram, Facebook, and websites to see if their style is what you are looking for. Third, try not to stress over the little things, it will all come together. Fourth, remember this special day is about the two of you. Don’t let others dictate what your day is about—because it is about the two of you and love you have for each other.

What was your favorite part of your wedding day?

Our favorite part of the day was walking down the aisle. CC walked to the “Lava” song (which is completely perfect for her personality), and Ayron walked to Sara B’s "I Choose You." CC is a big kid at heart, so a song from a Pixar short is the perfect touch. Ayron and CC have gone to many Sara B concerts together, and so that is part of the reason Ayron picked “I Choose You." Meeting at the alter made the day feel real, and that we were finally getting married.

Honestly, we weren’t sure that it would ever be legal for us to get married, so this day was even more special. Ayron always said that she would only get married if it was legal. She didn’t just want a commitment ceremony, because they were already committed to each other, but when same sex marriage was legalized we finally had the option.

Also, we got married on National Coming Out Day in 2018. It was not intentional, and we didn’t even realize it until we told the LGBT+ youth group that we volunteer with what the date was, and they told us.

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