Tell us your love story!
We met 6 1/2 years ago at gay pride in NYC. Danielle bought myself and my friends shots and introduced herself. The next day when I added her on Facebook I noticed we had more than 100 friends in common. Turns out, we went to the same high school and didn’t know each other. Who knows how many times we may have crossed paths?! Danielle asked me out for drinks and I insisted on dinner…We have been inseparable since.
What about the proposal?
A year ago Danielle proposed in the most romantic way, on a gondola in Venice. To say the least, I was very surprised! We had reached the 5 year mark and I was pretty sure it was never going to happen. We had been in Italy for more than a week at that point… I don’t know how she hid the ring and the surprise of the proposal from me. My parents, best friends, her friends even my doormen knew that we were getting engaged before I did. Shockingly, everyone managed to keep it a secret.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
I would have to say on our second date. I took Danielle to a show in NYC- Fuerza Bruta- at the end of the show the audience gets drenched. I had been to the show before and was unsure if this would be something she would appreciate or totally freak out about. Thankfully, she loved it the two of us danced- yes drenched from head to toe in a crowd of strangers. Despite being soaking wet our date continued (thankfully it was July). But we took a walk in the park and hung out for a while longer. I just knew that I loved spending time with her.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We definitely knew we wanted to be out doors. Danielle knew she wanted a September wedding. We also knew the general area where we wanted the wedding (New York City or close to Manhattan)
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
The most surprising thing about planning was learning how opinionated my future wife was in regards to small details. When I pictured wedding planning before we were even engaged I sort of thought she would have been a bit less —- uh not sure how to put it… but out of the two she was the one who played the roll of ‘bridezilla’. It is surprising because she is very agreeable, generally speaking. When I tell this to people they always seem surprised! The common response is “I would think you were there bridezilla out of the two.” I have to say, before we were wedding planning, I would have agreed.
We made it through the process with private shared Pinterest boards, and with the help of my mother, who is great at planning parties. I think initially we had one budget in mind which we ended up more than doubling when everything was said and done. A lot of people said that “a wedding isn’t worth it, it’s only 5 -6 hours."
To both of us, it was 100% worth every penny, disagreement, sleepless night. We really wanted our family and friends who supported us through out our relationship to celebrate the next phase of it with us.
Gay marriage was legalized during our relationship, which was a huge moment for our community and for us. We feel so blessed that everyone came, showed us love and celebrated us at our wedding. We realize that there are people in our community who don’t have that support from family and loved ones. However, I know both Danielle and I believe that the more marriage equality is seen through weddings like ours- publications like this and others - on main stream media and through other channels, acceptance, love & support will become something that hopefully everyone will have.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
I have to say I am so happy that the wedding planning process is over! I enjoyed every second of our wedding.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now?
I found the Appy Couple site to be very helpful when setting up our wedding website it also has a cute app that guests can download. It made keeping track of guest counts and events very easy. People were able to share photos to it, which was nice.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Our ceremony! We really enjoyed it. We hired a comedian/cantor who was able to infuse comedy into our big Russian/Italian/Jewish/Non denominational ceremony.
We danced to Just Like Heaven that was covered by Katie Melula.
How we included loved ones:
We had two candles lit in honor of my brother Eric and Danielle's father, Michael, who passed away. I also had a broach on my bouquet with my grandmothers photo. We had our mothers walk down the aisle and Danielle had two of her cousins as bridesmaids. I also had my nieces and nephew walk down the aisle.
What I would do different:
As far as the wedding, nothing. I would have liked to have booked a much needed vacation right after the wedding!
- Photography By Fabio Fistarol Photography
- Venue By The William Vale
- Planning, Coordination & Florals By Aramat Events
- Music By Douglas Genuard
- Invitation Suite By Wedding Paper Divas
- Dresses By Matthew Christopher
- & Alexander McQueen
- Videography By Magic Flute Videos
- Jewelry By David G Diamonds
- & Erica Anenberg