A Fall New Hampshire Wedding
Tell us your love story!
Kaila and I technically met for the first time during high school, when she came into the pharmacy I worked at to visit her high school friend who also worked there. We lived in the same town (and graduated the same year – we were actually born only 3 days apart), but went to different high schools, and really did not become close friends until college. Kaila went to Cazanovia College in Upstate, NY and I went to undergrad at Smith College in Northampton, MA, but a mutual friend (Jess, who later served as my Maid of Honor) connected us during a break from school while we were home, and our friendship blossomed throughout the years.
By the time I was in graduate school in Boston, Kaila had moved to NH for work, and we were able to spend more time together. Kaila was (and still is) my very best friend. Many years of an incredible friendship later, Kaila expressed that she had feelings far beyond friendship, and the rest, as they say, is history.
What about the proposal?
Kaila and I are both from the Berkshires of Western, MA. One fall weekend in October during a visit home, Kaila said she wanted to head up to the top of Mt. Greylock. It was a perfect fall day, but also happened to be the weekend of the the annual Mount Greylock Ramble, so the traffic getting to the summit was crazy. We finally got to the top and wandered around taking photos. When we ended up in a quiet spot, Kaila handed me a “pamphlet” she had found in the lodge and told me I should read it. That pamphlet was actually her proposal. By the time I realized what was happening, Kaila was down on one knee, asking me to be her wife. Unbeknownst to me (since there were so many people at the summit), Kaila had a photographer there photographing the whole thing. We wandered around taking more photos and eventually stumbled upon our families waiting there with signs that said “She Said Yes!” and lots of champagne (another incredible surprise). It was perfect.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
Once we both came to terms with the feelings we had for each other (and the risk of losing our best friend by taking our relationship beyond a friendship), the feeling that we were meant to be came pretty quickly. We actually made a half-hearted pact years before that that if we were both not married by 30, we would just marry each other. Who knows - maybe somewhere inside of us we knew long before, and just weren’t at a place in our lives to acknowledge it.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
Going into wedding planning, we knew we wanted an outdoor wedding in the fall to take advantage of the beautiful foliage that New England has to offer. We had a vision of a big rustic, barn wedding. We saw a mobile wood-fired pizza oven at the Big E the year before and knew we wanted to incorporate that in some way (since we both love pizza, and it was just so different and fun). We are also both avid DIY-ers, so we knew we wanted to incorporate as many things that we could make ourselves into our day to really personalize it and make it our own.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
I am a (slightly compulsive) planner by nature, so I was really excited about the planning process. Kaila is really easy-going, and was very open to my vision, which made mutually deciding on things easy. She only had strong opinions about a few things (like maple syrup favors, that, of course, were DIY-ed), and we made sure to make those happen.
Our wedding venue was basically just a beautiful piece of property and an empty barn, so we had to find vendors for every component of the wedding. This was a little more challenging than I anticipated, because it meant putting a lot of trust in a variety of people and coordinating so many moving parts. We tried to use as many local, small businesses as possible, but that also meant there weren’t hundreds of reviews for all of them. We trusted our gut, and luckily, everyone came through (and then some!).
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Yes – to use a coordinator or a wedding planner! Because I am such a planner, I didn’t think I would need a wedding planner or coordinator. Part way through the planning process, I realized that it would be nice to not have to worry about anything the day-of, and asked a good high school friend (who works as a wedding planner) if she would be willing to be our day-of-coordinator. She agreed without hesitation, and it was probably the best money we spent on the whole wedding. She and her sister took the reins at the rehearsal and were incredible throughout the whole weekend, and it meant that Kaila and I just got to soak up all the love and happiness surrounding us on our day without a worry in the world.
In some ways, passing off some of the planning earlier on might have been nice, too, as the planning and crafting truly consumed nearly a whole year of our lives.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now?
We were married the same weekend that we were engaged, just one year later. We did not have the best rain plan (we really didn’t want to spend a bunch of money on a huge tent we may never use), and while we lucked out, getting close to the day made not having a really solid rain plan caused for some incredible nerves. I wish I had just reserved the tent so I wouldn’t have had to worry.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
My favorite moment was during our portraits after the ceremony. Even though our photographer was taking pictures, she was far enough away at points where it was really just the two of us, and it was so nice to just take a few minutes to be with just her. Kaila’s favorite part was when I walked down the aisle to her. The other favorite part of our wedding day were all the ways that our family and friends contributed: hydrangeas everywhere that multiple family members spent many months collecting and drying for our florist to use, the perfect cake that was made by my aunt (and driven to NH from PA), my uncle’s antique car that he drove me to the ceremony site in, the incredible cocktails that my cousin (a world-renowned mixologist) flew in from CA days early to carefully craft and hand make (which included hand-squeezing thousands of lemons and limes), and the endless décor that our wedding party and family spent an entire day in the pouring rain helping us set-up.
- Photography By Ally Schmaling
- Videography By Travis Wilber
- Venue By Kitz Farm
- Stationery Designed By The Bride, Gabrielle
- Stationery Printed By CatPrint
- Jewelry By BHLDN
- Rentals By Boston Rustic Wedding Rentals
- & Special Events of New England
- Catering By Pizza By Fire
- Bar/Staffing By Martinis Etc Professional Bartending
- Florals By Vera Flora Farm
- Hair & Makeup By Salon Exodus
- Music By Main Event Entertainment
- & UNH Not Too Sharp Acapella Group
- Transportation By Distinctive Transportation Services
- Lodging By Governor's Inn
- Dress By Allure Romance from County Bridals & Formal Wear