A Jewel-Toned Affair
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We met by chance. Both of us had signed up for OKCupid (long before Tinder was ever a thing), not really expecting much. And after several months of failed dates, we were both pretty much ready to give up. Tess hadn't met anyone worthwhile, and she was becoming restless and a bit discouraged. But then, she saw my profile: she thought I was sassy and witty; that I had a way with words — and my smirking profile picture didn't hurt, either. So she took a chance. And just as I was about to cancel my account, a new message popped into my inbox. It was well-written and sweet, and the girl who had written it was captivating. After weeks of messages and countless phone calls, we decided to take the next step. So on a rainy night in Manhattan, we met in person. And it was magical!
What about the proposal?
Four years and three cats later, Tess proposed during a trip to Bar Harbor, Maine, on top of Cadillac Mountain. I can’t say it was a total surprise, since she was so nervous during our hike, and had run ahead on the path. There was a little message in a bottle — which coincidentally bore a key, with my initials — and a little vintage velvet box with a sparkly rose gold ring. (Note from Tess) With family being a huge part of our lives, I knew I wanted to propose in a place with memories belonging to my parents. We would add our own moments to the mix. So, I chose Acadia National Park, in Maine. My parents eloped in Bar Harbor, ME less than a year before having me. They had flown up together just the two of them on trips and found the place magical. Boy, were they right. My step-dad went to the College of the Atlantic, which coincidentally is located in Bar Harbor. These people helped shaped me into who I am, and my wife keeps me striving to be who I want/can be; it felt only fitting to propose to her on top of Cadillac Mountain; overlooking the places my parents at various points in their lives became the best versions of themselves. I feel fortunate and lucky to have been able to create special memories there as well, and look forward to all the future has to offer with Megan as my wife.
Of course, our engagement wasn’t complete until I got the chance to propose to Tess right back. I had picked up some hand-dyed yarn in Bar Harbor, and was knitting Tess a pair of fingerless gloves in the color she picked out. And as her mother took our engagement photos in a field near where Tess grew up, I gave them to her…with a ruby ring tied to a very special finger.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
For me, there wasn’t one moment that made me realize we were meant to be together. It was more like a gradual realization that Tess was, very simply, my soulmate. I couldn’t imagine my life without her, and thinking about the future — which was previously pretty scary — was a rose-tinted dream come true.
(Note from Tess) It was our sixth date and had spent the afternoon at the Met museum. I remember looking at medieval armor with her, and joking about something or another when she stood behind me and put her arms around me. I felt the world both resting and releasing on my shoulders and all at once I felt more alive than I can recall. It may sound silly to pinpoint a moment but I knew then we were going to be beautiful together.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
When we began wedding planning, we knew we wanted to do something in Brooklyn, where we’ve spent the past four years of our life together. And as soon as we visited the Prospect Park Boathouse, we fell in love. The building is over 100 years old, and unlike any other place in New York. Between the serene lake, beautiful bridge, and canopy of trees, you don’t feel like you’re in the middle of a bustling city. We were both born and raised in New York; Tess in the country and me in the city — so getting married in a historic building in the park couldn’t have been a better fit. We let the gorgeous subway tiles and changing leaves inspire our vision for the day, and it was perfect.
Practically speaking, it was also very important to have a venue that would take some of the stress out of wedding planning. When you see beautiful Pinterest weddings, you don’t necessarily realize how many vendors have gone into making the vision a reality. The Boathouse came with excellent catering and event staff — and had an indoor space for the ceremony in case of poor weather — which ultimately made our lives so much easier.
What surprised you during planning?
The harder parts of wedding planning revolved around managing our families. But at the same time, that was also one of the most rewarding parts, because family is so important to us. At certain times, it was very difficult knowing that we had to step back and realize you can’t please everyone. At the end of the day, a wedding is a celebration of the love you share with your significant other, and for us, including our loved ones was a beautiful necessity.
Some of the more enjoyable parts of planning included creating decorations. We hunted for used books ourselves, and picked ones that felt right for us. We also created the liners for our save the dates and our invitations using paper we picked out at a local shop. It ended up being one of our more rewarding parts of the process when we came together to create the invitations. We had fun with it — after the initial stress! We also had a custom stamp made, and using special ink and a heating tool, we glittered our address on all correspondences.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
It’s important to realize that feelings will get hurt, and not necessarily your own. Weddings seem to bring out the best and the worst in people. It will surprise you, but at the end of it all you are creating memories and planning a celebration of love and commitment with your future spouse. That will always be worth it!
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Our advice would be to take the time and enjoy smaller details with one another during all the planning. On our wedding day it was lovely to see everything come together and recognize little details that we had done together. Also, if your parents are involved in the process, make sure to thank them whenever you get the chance. We're fortunate to have such strong relationships with ours, and really took the time to make sure they knew they were appreciated.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
On November 7th, 2015 at 3:00 PM I married my best friend, the great love of my life. We’re thrilled to have found one another and fortunate to have the unwavering support of our families. It’s a special thing to be married shortly after marriage equality became nationwide!
Looking back on our one year wedding anniversary, I'd have to say my favorite part is still the look on her face when we first saw each other on the bridge just before our ceremony started.
(Note from Tess) My favorite moment was having Megan read her vows to me. We each wrote our own, and whenever I think of it my heart swells up. We tied the knot in a lovely, personal ceremony on the dock of the Boathouse, surrounded by our friends and family; their support was overwhelming, and it was truly the best day of our lives.
- Photography By Rachelle Derouin Photography
- Videography By Kiss The Bride Films
- Venue By Prospect Park Boathouse
- Getting Ready Location By Hudson Studios
- Catering By The Moveable Feast
- Florals By Denise Fasanello
- Ceremony Music By New York Ceremony Music
- Reception DJ By Scratch Weddings
- Wedding Officiant By Cheerleader For Love
- Hair & Makeup By Laura Costa
- Brides Dresses By BHLDN
- Megan's Shoes By Jeffrey Campbell
- Megan's Clutch By Kate Spade
- Megan's Headpiece By Family Heirloom
- Megan's Veil By BHLDN
- Megan's Jewelry By Catbird
- Furs By Vintage
- Tess' Shoes By Harriet Wilde
- Tess' Headpiece By Melinda Rose Design
- Tess' Jewelry By Family Heirloom Pieces
- Engagement Rings By Rosados Box
- Megan's Wedding Band By Rosados Box
- Tess' Wedding Band By Harry Winston
- Wedding Party Dresses By Rent The Runway
- Wedding Party Robes By Plum Pretty Sugar
- Mothers of the Brides Dresses By Adrianna Papell
- Boutonnieres By Family - DIY
- Signature Cocktail Menu By Paper Tangent
- Vow Books By Yolk Design
- Table Numbers By Love and Found
- Table Book Decorations By The Strand
- Temporary Tattoos By Tattly