How did you start dating?
Z: Kyle and I started dating after about six years of knowing one another. We began dating my senior year of college, after I had just come back from studying abroad in France. I messaged him asking him when I was taking him to dinner.
K: Its true. Zabrian basically told me where and when we were getting dinner, to which I happily agreed, and we’ve been together ever since.
How did you know that your partner was the right one for you?
Z: He was different. Kyle was quiet, shy, reserved, and very caring. These were all qualities that told me that he was going to care about me, just as much as I’d care about him.
K: Even before we became a couple, he knew exactly what he wanted. I, on the other hand, was a nervous wreck for our date, and barely spoke a sentence. Still to this day I get teased because when I met him at dinner all I could muster out of my mouth was “Hey bud”. To this day he will tag things with #YouHadMeSinceHeyBud. I needed a partner who could dish it out as well as I can, and could be charming and funny about it simultaneously, and thankfully, he was determined to get that dinner.
What have you learned from your fiancé?
Z: I’ve learned that it is okay to do things to make yourself happy, even if it isn’t favorable to everyone else. Also, when you take him on road trips, he still needs juice to drink and gummy candies to eat.
K: I’ve learned to trust. Not just any trust, but the kind that people brag about in whirlwind romances. The kind where you can show all your flaws and mishaps, and he will help me learn from them all. Its never a competition, or a blame game, but an opportunity for us to grow as a couple. He showed me that love is real, and that you can give a person every ounce of your soul, and they’ll protect it forever.
How would you describe the dynamic of your relationship?
Z: Magnetic, because even though sometimes we are at opposite sides of the spectrum, we come together for a common goal. Understanding, because we have both had different world experiences, and we take the time to appreciate the differences in those experiences. Honest, because we are not afraid to talk to one another about anything.
K: Flirty, because one us is constantly trying to flirt with the other, with varying degrees of successes. Reassuring, because even when the flirting doesn’t work, we convince the other that we really do love one another. Comical, because there is truly never a dull day in our household. Even on the days where we literally get to wakeup together, then lay back in bed at night, there are always laughs filling our house.
What are you most looking forward to as a couple?
Z: Having something that is exclusively ours. Owning our first home. Looking at successes and failures, and reflecting upon all the time we’ve had together. Growing old.
K: Becoming parents. After our wedding in December, we will begin the long journey of surrogacy. My biggest goal in life is to be a father. I can’t wait for all the milestones that a child will bring into our life, and the memories that will flood our home together.