A Rustic California Affair
How I met Rich wasn't particularly romantic. I'd been single for about a year and, though having dated a lot, I hadn't met anyone that I really connected with. I'd always been hesitant to try online dating, but after kissing too many frogs, I decided it was time to give it a try. So, I joined match.com, just to see what would happen. I was looking for someone down to earth who really cared about his family, not just said so; someone I could build a life and a family with.
One day as I was scrolling through profiles I received a private message. I pulled up the profile and it seemed like it was written just for me: family, travel, good food, etc., and he was cute, at least in the very fuzzy picture he'd posted. I replied to his message and after several exchanges and a couple of calls, we decided to meet for coffee.
The morning of our date rolled around. As I was walking up to the coffee shop, a very handsome guy pulled up who slightly resembled the photo Rich had posted. I remembering thinking it couldn't be him because why would a guy that handsome post that photo?! But, lucky me! We sat and chatted over coffee. We talked about our lives, our families, our travels and decided this was worth exploring further.
The first few months were fun, but a little rocky. I really liked this guy, but wasn't sure if he was really ready for a grown up relationship, so just before Halloween, I ended it. Ended it until he showed up Halloween night at a bar I was at with my friends, walked right up to the guy I was on a date with and promptly told him that things weren't going to workout because I was his boyfriend, or at least, was going to be. He told me that he'd made a mistake and wanted to give it another go. More than a little impressed by his gumption and vulnerability, I didn't hesitate and before I knew it, many months had passed and I was thinking about marrying this handsome globetrotting chef.
We'd planned a trip to Italy, our first overseas trip together. We'd scheduled it so that we'd leave the morning after his best friends wedding. Leading up to the trip we'd had some conversations about the future and marriage, so I decided I'd pop the question while we were on the Amalfi coast; could there be possibly be a more romantic place to do it? Well, Rich is a man who goes after what he wants. The night of his friends rehearsal dinner we ate and drank and laughed with his friends and drank some more. As we were pouring ourselves into bed at the hotel, he looked at me and said: "Are you going to ask me to marry you in Italy? What are you waiting for? Just ask me now." Long story short, after playing coy for a few minutes, I realized my plans were irrelevant. I was laying next to the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, so why wait? So, I asked and my Prince Charming and he said yes. We spent the next two weeks eating too much pasta, drinking too much wine, and making plans for our future and the wedding.
As the days became weeks then months, the wedding plans slowly came together. I left most of the planning to him. He was in the 'industry' and has a far better eye for these things than I've ever had. Okay, I left all the planning to him. We both agreed that we wanted a wedding near our home, but wanted it to feel like a destination wedding for the many guests who would be coming from out of town. So, we planned four days of parties and brunches and opportunities for our families and friends to get to know each other. It was amazing. Our families clicked and the food and fun couldn't have been better.
The day of the wedding came and everything went off without a hitch; perfect weather, deer hopping across the yard minutes before we were to walk down the aisle, a surprise guitarist playing the most beautiful tunes (thanks, baby), and none of the typical wedding drama. Best of all, at the end of the night I was married to a man that always makes me laugh. In the months since, so many people have told us that it was the best wedding they'd ever been too. Whether true or not, I know that there couldn't possibly be another wedding that I could love more because at the end of it all I was starting the life I'd always dreamed of with a man I thought I'd never find.