How did you meet?
Tinder. With my bad luck with app/online dating in the past, I tried so hard to avoid going on any more dates through apps. We were chatting back and forth on Tinder for about 2 weeks and then Steph offered me her number saying, “Well if you find yourself some time between work, studying, HBO and going to the gym you should text me ##.” I then responded with my phone number, knowing full well that with my prior crap luck, I would not be texting her. The next morning, at 7 AM, I received a text from a 917 number that was wishing me good luck on my midterm. What a first impression! We chatted back a forth for a few more weeks before we committed to finally meeting. It was March 1st after cycle for survival, with much convincing from my brother and Adam, we met at Khave coffee shop in Hells Kitchen. It had to be non-alcohol related throughout the whole dating process because I was training for my bodybuilding show.
Over 4 weeks, we had 3 dates on week nights. Finally, we booked a date on a Friday to watch March Madness games until 2 in the morning. We strolled up to Columbus Circle, where we had our first kiss. I thought Steph was never going to talk to me again, but we found ourselves hanging out that evening as well….and then next week, and the week after that. I knew I made the cut when Steph finally took me to meet Judy and the Pipsy and then the following week a Taco Night at Erica and Noah’s. I was finally meeting the FBC!
It was Meg's graduation, so I finally convinced her to come to eat at Per Se as a celebration. She didn't know what we were actually celebrating though. We fought all day because she wanted to go to the city for the whole day before the dinner. I had written will you marry me in a graduation card and tried to give it to her at the beginning of the meal. She kept saying "later," until I freaked out so she took it, begrudgingly. When she read the bottom, she said "Is this for real?" and started crying and then she said "yes!" We had the best meal of our lives.
After about 2 months, I was riding the bus and talking to my mom on the phone asking her when is too soon to say “I love you." I was concerned. Steph was buying a place in Brooklyn and, to me, Brooklyn seemed so far away from my life in Manhattan and my family, so I was nervous to fall in love and commit. I soon realized that was both crazy and stupid.
We knew we wanted to get married in Brooklyn which has become our new home. We knew we didn't want anything over the top, just down to earth like us. Beer, booze, great food and an amazing dance party. Once we found the place and a great caterer, everything fell into place. However, trying to keep our vision while dealing with our families was certainly a challenge. Our DJ was very helpful with planning the flow of the events.
Make sure the couple takes time for them self.
The day is very overwhelming with a lot of family.
Make sure to eat enough before the party starts.
No matter what happens and no matter how things turn out, be on each other's side.
Pick a few things that are truly important to you both and focus on that.
Don't sweat the small stuff, in the end you will be married and the party will be a memory.
Our favorite part of our wedding day was the pie. Screw cake...eat pie.
Last note: take engagement photos even if you never use them it makes you comfortable with someone following you around with a camera.
- Photography By Sasithon Photography
- of The Wedding Artists Collective
- Venue By 26 Bridge
- Florals By Denise Fasanello
- DJ/Entertainment By Jay McElfresh
- Dresses By Kenneth Pool
- Catering By Real Food Catering
- Invitations By Inklinations
- Hair By Rebekah Sattler
- Makeup By Michelle Stern Beauty
- Rings & Earrings By Jeffrey Charles Designs
- Cake By La Bonne Boulangerie