From the photographer...
Zoe and Lil are far from the typical wedding client…in the best ways possible!
From the moment they contacted me about their wedding photography, they already had a specific idea of who they were looking for, not just for their wedding photographer, but for all their wedding vendors. Whenever possible, they wanted to hire queer women of color. And once I met them, their second priority became clear, although it was never said out loud to me. Through our “getting-to-know-each-other-blind-photographer-date” (that’s usually what I call them), the most important part of their wedding wasn’t their wedding at all. It was/is their marriage. A marriage that is about two souls committing to support and love each other. A marriage that merges two families into one. A marriage that is nothing, if not for the constant support of their family and friends, who will, in turn, continue to be supported and loved even more by those two souls, now that they are a stronger unit.
Zoe and Lil’s ceremony was one of the most special weddings I’ve attending. In the middle of a beautiful clearing in Golden Gate Park, surrounded by trees and the morning fog, they entered their ceremony hand-in-hand. It was a longer ceremony than most, as a large portion of it was dedicated to providing a space for their guests to participate by sharing stories of the two brides. Zoe and Lil considered this the “silent portion” of their ceremony, so that everyone would remain present and not take photos (including me, the photographer).
The stories that were shared painted a beautiful picture of their lives, one in which the love they have for each other is multiplied and spread amongst their friends and family. It was deeply touching, and many happy tears were shared.
Unsurprisingly, Zoe and Lil did not have a wedding theme, or special wedding colors, but if there was a theme, it would be this quote that Zoe and Lil read during their ceremony: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” As I watched Zoe and Lil relish in their newlywed status while we took photos at Sutro Baths and Lands End following their morning ceremony, it was evident to me that they lived this quote by living in the present moment, thriving off the happiness they bring to each other.
As a photographer, it is always my goal to capture the emotions of the day as well as the details that many couples may not notice simply because of how fast the day flies by. Zoe and Lil were not interested in photos of the details. Their focus was always on celebrating the day and making sure their guests were having a great time. Thus, they wanted me to focus on the celebration. And what a celebration it was! Their reception was held at the Stern Grove Trocadero Clubhouse and included a cocktail hour outside amongst the trees, floral decorations by Verde SF, delicious Indian food catered by Kasa Indian Eatery, ice cream sandwiches by Teacake Bake Shop (who also supplied the guests with breakfast treats prior to the ceremony), and DJ Olga T who spun music that got everyone on the dance floor.
Zoe and Lil’s wedding was certainly a day to remember, and I was privileged to be a small part of it.