Botanic Garden Beauties
Tell us your love story!
Lynn and Essie went to neighboring colleges and met on a Queer Resource Center ice-skating trip. Essie thought Lynn was super sexy and mysterious as she cruised the ice in her hockey skates. Lynn thought Essie was sort of overwhelming. Eventually, Lynn figured out that Essie was just exactly the right kind of overwhelming. They fell in love over Star Wars and tea.
Tell us about the proposal!
Essie said "Can we get married?" Lynn said "Aren't we kind of already married?" Essie said "Sure, but could we have a wedding? And could you also buy me a ring and propose to me?" Lynn agreed, purchased the ring Essie picked out and sweetly proposed during a sunny hike through the forests of Portland.
Tell us about your big day…
We got married in September, at the Denver Botanic Gardens, during their big show with the Chihuly glass exhibit. We had breakfast for dinner: breakfast burritos, mini pancakes, summer salad and melon kebabs. There was a little two person band that played The Rainbow Connection for our recessional. We said our vows without an officiant (don't need one in Colorado!) and in front of 40 of our closest family and friends. Our friends gave beautiful toasts, our guests toured the gardens, we did a little dancing and ate cupcakes. It was perfect.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We wanted: a site that was ADA accessible, good bathrooms nearby, everybody to feel comfortable, great pictures and one site for both reception and ceremony.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Essie did much of the planning, as Lynn is in graduate school. Essie was surprised by how difficult it was to communicate her vision with Lynn. Lynn was surprised by how much it all cost. It was surprisingly difficult to keep the guest list small, and surprisingly easy to book our photographer, caterer and cupcake baker.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now?
Keep your eyes on the goal. Don't get too caught up in the millions of details, if you don't really care about the millions of details. Keep track of your expenses. Essie kept a detailed spreadsheet of money spent, money left owing and money reimbursed. It was easy to make sure the money matched the priorities, because they money was well tracked. Be clear with your expectations (with yourself and with everybody else). Hire good people that you can trust to keep your priorities in mind during your big day.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Saying our vows was really special, but I (Essie) will never forget dancing and singing with the band as they played the Rainbow Connection at the very end of the night. We danced, and my love held me, and I felt like a perfect fairy-tale princess, with a perfect fairy-tale wedding. I love looking back at pictures and remembering how beautiful and happy everything was.