The planning just keeps coming along with these two and we are loving every minute of it! Jen & Lauren were tasked with nailing down a color palette and their choice is absolutely perfect for their end of spring/start of summer wedding date!
Lauren told us a bit about the intimidating assignment...
When you're planning a wedding, you meet with a bunch of caterers and every one of them has this fan of colorful tablecloth swatches. The tablecloth swatches kill me. The notion of choosing a color for your wedding is overwhelming. Especially when you're choosing between five shades of bluish lavender and burgundy. Jen and I like colors, but we mostly like things that are colorful. Not rainbow flags everywhere, certainly, but also not yards of teal fabric. Choosing one color is very daunting.
When you search for basic "wedding" decor inspiration there are lots of images of roses and tuxes and votive candles. "Brooklyn wedding" yields a brick backdrop to more votive candles, sometimes in mason jars. "Lesbian wedding" Giant ball gowns and rainbow wedding cakes. And votive candles! We weren't getting very far by basing our design choices off of these tropes.
We decided to step back and choose a few things we both love:
This Gay Time Pinball Machine
The palm print from Blanche's room on The Golden Girls
American traditional tattoos
Can our wedding look like this without looking like the set of The Birdcage? Or should our wedding look like the set of The Birdcage? These are actual conversations that Jen and I had.
We found two things very helpful in structuring how we think of how our wedding looks:
1. H & H Weddings
2. My friend Sophia's Pinterest board
H&H is a wonderful resource for showing the variety of what "gay weddings" can look like. Each couple featured on the site is truly unique; H&H has the rare quality of showcasing diversity within diversity, which is important but oft lacking in the LGBTQ community. Jen and I didn't want to simply substitute one of us for the groom and the other for the bride in traditional heterosexual weddings, but after making that decision, we weren't sure where to start. H&H was a perfect jumping off point for attire ideas, advice on our officiant, and even on the level of formality we'd like the day to include.
Jen and I made a Pinterest board early on and it was kind of weird; equal parts Miami and sailors and succulents. It did not feel cohesive. My friend Sophia is a Pinterest savant. She made a board that captured the ideas Jen and I were thinking about. It was bright and colorful without looking like a pride parade. It was elegant and quirky without too many mason jars.
We are looking to strike a balance between fun and fancy. We want a formal affair, no doubt. But we'd like some lawn flamingos, too. As H&H has shown us, it's all possible.
Find out what color direction Jen & Lauren are taking by following their Pinterest board (which we are obsessed with) here!
All photos by Brister Photo