A Rainy Wedding at the Winnetka Community House
Tell us your love story!
Virin and Anthony first connected online, and it began with a few messages sometime close to New Year of 2014. Contrary to what some people may have assumed, Virin was actually the person to initiate the conversation. After getting to know each for about a month or two, they decided to meet in person to see if they felt sparks. Virin took the train from Hanover Park to Union Station where Anthony was casually leaning against the wall waiting after a long day of work. They took the Blue Line together to grab a bite to eat at Dimo's Pizza. While Anthony ordered two slices of pizza, Virin only ordered one because lactose intolerance is not a cute look on the first date. They talked about more of their interests including music tastes, and when Virin told Anthony that his favorite artists were One Direction and Taylor Swift, you could see a look of doubt cross Anthony's eyes, but he decided to give Virin the B of the D (benefit of the doubt). After they finished their pizza, Anthony took Virin to one of his favorite bars, The Violet Hour. The bar had a Great Gatsby/swanky feel to it and felt very intimate. Virin ordered a Dark & Stormy, and Anthony ordered a Manhattan. Conversation flowed effortlessly, and hours passed like minutes making this the longest first date that either of them had ever had. Safe to say now, they definitely felt sparks.
What about a proposal?
Virin being the somewhat over the top type, he would have expected a large spectacle of a proposal. This however would not have taken him by surprise as he would have expected a proposal on a special day. Instead, in order to completely surprise Virin with the proposal, it happened on a random Tuesday evening while we were watching a movie and cuddling on the couch with our dogs. Anthony was behind Virin, who was laying with his back against Anthony’s chest. Anthony asked Virin if he loved him, to which Virin said “of course.” Anthony then said but actually? While he pulled the ring out from his pocket and asked if Virin would marry him.
When did you know you were meant to be?
We pretty much knew we were going to be together for a long time after the first date in 2014. After about a year we knew we would eventually get married though, with Virin in Med School we didn’t have the energy to think about it seriously until he was finished. Anthony proposed a couple of months before Virin graduated from med school.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
Going into wedding planning we knew we preferred an outdoor, garden-type wedding. We had discussed during our relationship what we wanted even before we knew we were going to be getting married. There was a shared folder on our PC network in which we put ideas for the wedding. We knew it was going to be a garden wedding with the decor being florals and greenery with firefly lights in garden lanterns. We knew we wanted less than 100 people and only a small ceremony cake because we preferred a large dessert table. There HAD to be an open bar, and we had our own signature cocktail for guests to enjoy. All of this was “planned” before we started wedding planning properly.
What surprised you during wedding planning? What was easy and what was difficult?
The easy part was knowing what we wanted. We both had a fairly clear view of what we envisioned our day being like. Finding a venue that fit our criteria was the hardest part of the wedding. It took us several weeks to find somewhere that fit what we wanted and fit our price range (IE not 16000 dollars just for the venue). Other than that, coordinating all the vendors together seemed the next most difficult as we planned it ourselves and didn’t use a wedding planner. The catering company/Wedding venue worked together and we were provided with a semi coordinator during the wedding planning process by Catered by Designs which was a great help.
Any advice for folx planning their wedding now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you'd like to add?
We had a fairly easy-going wedding planning experience, even though it did rain on the actual day. If we would do it over, we would be more prepared to deal with moving the reception inside Instead of assuming it would be okay and focusing outside. What we mean is we would have decorated inside a bit more as we were planning on using the garden venue outdoors as the decoration for walls and environment which the inside didn’t provide as well.
Definitely have a plan for finding your venue well ahead of time, that was the most stressful part of the planning process. Make sure to communicate with vendors, especially cake/flowers, to make sure they get everything exactly how you envision it. We had a little bit of trouble getting the cake we actually wanted.
What was your favorite part of your wedding?
Our favorite part of our wedding, other than the obvious marrying each other, was getting all our friends and family together to celebrate us! Keeping the wedding small worked out so well because there was zero drama as everyone there was special to us. Other than that, working with our Photographer Lisa Kay was amazing and made the day so much better. She stayed the entire time of the wedding and reception and kept getting inspired by things she saw throughout the wedding, coming up with new ideas for groom and groom photos!