A Big Colorful Mexi-Jewish Wedding
Tell Us About Your Story!
A modern day love story, we met on an app called Hinge in July 2015. Little did we know that when we matched on the app, our lives were going to change forever. From our first text conversation, we realized that we were both avid travelers, career driven ladies, spin class enthusiasts, enjoyed going to concerts and had a joint appreciation of Salt-N-Pepa. Our first date was at the Varnish in Downtown LA. We spent 3 hours talking non-stop. Never once looking at our phones or watches. It was a magical night and dare we say love at first sight. Afterwards, we knew there was something there that we had to explore.
What About the Proposal?
After 3 years together, we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We both wanted to propose so it was up to each of us to decide on how to do it. One Sunday morning, Martha decided she wanted to propose that day. On a hilltop overlooking downtown LA called Angels Point, she asked Abbey to marry her. Turns out that morning, Abbey had decided the same thing only she wanted to do it on one of the swan boats in Echo Park Lake, that also had a view of downtown LA. The moment on that hilltop was so perfect that Abbey surprised Martha with a counter proposal complete with a banner and shirts that read Engaged AF! The dual proposal took us both by surprise. We had a trip to Paris planned the week after and we both thought the other was going to do it there. Needless to say we both said ‘yes’ overlooking our favorite view of LA.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
When we met, Abbey lived in Miracle Mile and Martha lived in Silver Lake. Basically long distance by LA standards. Besides connecting on every level, we knew it was true love when Abbey was willing to go east of La Brea and Martha embraced traveling to the “west side."
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
After we got engaged, we didn’t really have a plan for what kind of wedding we were going to have. One day it was courthouse, the next was a wedding and then back to eloping. One thing was certain though, Abbey was following a lot of wedding planners. One June day, she was scrolling through Instagram and found a post from her favorite LA wedding planner on social media, Holly Gray of Anything But Gray Events. She was having an LBGTQ contest offering her services to one lucky couple. One thing led to another, we got picked and all of a sudden we were working with Holly and she was going to help us plan a wedding in less than 6 months!
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Wedding planning was a full time job. We were surprised by how many details and decisions went into planning a wedding. We never thought we would have to make a decision on whether we wanted seat cushions or not. As far as one of the most difficult things, we would say it was narrowing down the guest list. We made the decision to have a small wedding. One of the hardest things was to get our guest list to under 100 people. We had to take into account each of our families, friends and our parents’ friends.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Make a list of your non-negotiables and everything else will fall into place. For us, our priority list was music, food, color, and that the wedding represent us both equally. We called our wedding our big colorful Mexi-Jewish wedding. We had mariachis during cocktail party and a Yacht Rock band, the food was catered by Border Grill and we had lots of color. Our other piece of advice is to trust your gut. You will get a lot of opinions, from your family to your planner to friends that have planned their own weddings. At the end of the day, it's your decision together and your gut is usually right.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
It sounds cliche but we loved everything about it. When we got engaged, never could we have imagined our wedding to be as epic as it was. Color was the word of the day and we asked all guests to dress in colorful cocktail attire. The venue was beautiful. The ceremony perfectly incorporated both Jewish & Mexican rituals. Our rabbi even read quotes from Barbra Streisand and RBG. The Jewish portion included friends reading progressive 7 blessings, we signed a ketubah, and drank from Abbey's family kiddish cup from 1800s Europe. On the Mexican side, we had arras, were wrapped in Martha's grandmother's veil, and her mom's rosary. We picked Border Grill because it’s owned by 2 badass women chefs (Susan Feniger [who is very active in the LGBT Community] and Mary Sue Milliken), and they cook the most delicious Mexican food in LA. We danced the night away to the sweet sounds of Yachty By Nature. One of the surprises of the night was that we handed out captains’ hats to all our guests. Seeing our guests dancing all night in their hats and colorful outfits was a sight to behold. Even now, we wish we could relieve it all over again. It was such a special day. We were surrounded by our village made up of our family and close friends. Something that rarely happens in life and when it does it's the best feeling ever.
- Venue: Ruby Street
- Photographer: Monica Linda Photography
- Videographer: Shy McGrath
- Planner: Anything But Gray Events
- Florals: Shindig Chic
- Paper Goods: Minted
- Catering: Border Grill
- Bar: Cali Craft Cocktails
- Bakery: Portos
- Band: Yachty By Nature
- Hair and Makeup: Betsy diFrancesca Bridal Hair and Makeup
- Rentals: La Piñata Party Rentals
- Rabbi: Rabbi Keara Stein
- Attire - Abbey: Dolly Couture
- Attire - Martha: Daniela Kurrle Couture
- Rings: Lance Heck Design
- Favors: Raven and Crow Studio
- Photobooth: Oh! Snaptastic!
- Mariachi Band: Los Angeles Mariachi Mexico en America
- Valet: Jeffrey Valet