Tell us how you met and fell in love!
On a Sunday night in December, I was watching Star Trek when a knock on my door startled me. I wasn’t expecting anyone over, and the quadplex I lived in had a locked door on the outside. I answered, and it was my downstairs neighbor, whom I had noticed before because she’s incredibly cute and has cool tattoos. She said she had an extra ticket to the ballet and asked if me or my roommate wanted to go with her. I was the only one home, and I wasn’t doing anything better, so I went. Two years later we got married.
Was there a proposal? Tell us about it!
We both proposed to each other. I did it first on New Years Eve, which is the anniversary of our first real date. As far as she knew, that’s what we were doing, but when I stopped outside of the place where we saw that first ballet, I think it tipped her off. It was freezing and extremely windy, but we got outside and I asked her to marry me. She said yes, and we celebrated with a donut.
She proposed to me the morning after I got laid off from my job. She was off work that day, so I got up to make us breakfast (read: to feel useful and contribute to our household since I wasn’t going to work that day). As soon as I plated it all up, I turned around and she had a ring in her hand and asked me to marry her too.
Are you planning your wedding right away or giving yourself some time to just be engaged?
We started planning pretty quickly because we got engaged in January and wanted a September wedding. Specifically, with the venue, we had to jump into gear. The truth is, we got the best of both worlds because my mom (with help from her friends) did almost all of the planning and my wife’s mom did all the food, so we got to enjoy being engaged because they took care of us.
What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your spouse-to-be?
My partner is a bleeding heart. She feels so hard, so much that sometimes it’s too much for her to bear. I learned that about her, and saw that it was genuine, about a month in, and I was sure that we would be together for a long time.
What’s your favorite part of your relationship?
The ability to do nothing together is something we both value. Sure, it’s great to be with someone that you can have a good time with, but what about when you’re too tired to have fun and just want to read a book? Because we both put a lot into our work, that quality is essential and we both cherish it.