Tell us your love story!
Kate: We met on Tinder. My friend was swiping for me because I hadn’t been on it in 3 months. After a few minutes, three people responded and he said I had to message one. Melanie had a dog in her pics, so she won. And we never stopped talking.
Melanie: She was looking at her dog so adoringly that I thought she’d have the capacity to maybe look at me with the same intensity one day, too.
What about the proposal?
Kate: Melanie proposed a few days after our two year anniversary. We were just hanging out with our dogs, our happy place.
Melanie: When you wake up happy just because someone is next to you, it’s smart to keep that ball rolling. Also she told me I had to wait 2 years.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
Kate: Melanie knew when we stayed in bed playing Fallout for 9 hours the first time she showed me the game. I knew when she told me she had Firefly on dvd.
Melanie: On a serious note, both of us have a commitment to bettering ourselves, whether that’s to do with mental health or our careers, and when life gets rough, that can be a taxing endeavor. When one of us struggles, the other is happy to pull up the slack. Baby steps are always okay in our house, and to have found someone that is always willing to try, for me, is an overwhelmingly wonderful gift.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We definitely knew we wanted a small outdoor wedding, and that we didn’t want to do typical event furniture and lighting. We both work in events, so we knew a lot of things we didn’t want.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
How much work it actually was. We work in events, and it was still a surprising amount. It was easy to pick a venue (my dad’s backyard) and it was difficult to figure out the menu as I am Celiac and have a whole list of other allergies.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Schedule lunch into the wedding day. Otherwise, eating will be sporadic at best.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Make sure to have YOUR wedding, not the wedding someone else wants for you. I wouldn’t have changed anything we did because it was perfect for us. It doesn’t matter what the status quo is. If you want something unconventional or less common, don’t worry about people saying ‘won’t that be awkward/weird?’ They just can’t think outside of the box. We didn’t have a dance floor, and had lawn games instead. Despite a few people’s protests, not one awkward moment resulted. The truth is, if you feel comfortable in your choices, the event will reflect your happiness. If you’re comfortable in the moment, it shows. So stick up for what you both want and what makes you comfortable - it’s too big of a day to make it about someone else.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Kate: I loved the ceremony. It was beautiful and Melanie cried almost the entire time :)
Melanie: we took a boat ride on the lake behind her dad’s house right after the ceremony - being able to watch all the people we love and love us in return enjoying the space we worked so hard to make perfect and take a moment to reflect was a gift, and allowed me to enjoy the reception all the more.