Tell us your love story!
We met somewhere you wouldn’t normally meet a future spouse. In fact, if you go here looking for a date, you are doing it wrong. It was a 7am on a weekday and Laura claims that Lacy stood out. Dressed and ready for her corporate job and looking super fine and focused. Laura, the self employed maker of her own schedule running late and half asleep, was dressed NOT to impress. It still managed to get Lacy’s attention and she found her on FB the same day and the rest is history.
What about the proposal?
Lacy proposed to Laura on Christmas morning in front of her entire family. She designed both ring sets and had them custom-made by a friend of Laura's stepmom. Both rings are 18-carat, palladium white gold. Laura's engagement ring is a gold band, with 8 small diamonds sporadically placed around the band. The "wedding" ring is the ring guard. It's absolutely perfect. Laura is a creative type that thinks outside the box and loves a good puzzle. The design and complete set resemble a puzzle. Lacy's engagement ring is 18-carat, palladium white gold with an oval sapphire encased with the white gold, with 6 small diamonds, three on each side. The wedding band is 18-carat, palladium white gold and is curved to fit perfectly around the stones. Ginger Meek Allen is the artist who made and designed the rings in collaboration with Lacy.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
Since day 1 there has been a ton of laughter, love, adventure, respect and personal and partnership reflection. It’s difficult to pin point a moment when we knew. It’s a collection of moments that started the second we met. After a period of time those moments snowballed and grew into this certainty of “yeah, she’s my person and I’m her person."
One specific instance that comes to mind for both of us is when we went shopping for Halloween outfits to wear to Hershey Park and we settled on onesies. Lacy went with the cow and Laura chose the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle outfit. We proceeded to wear these all day during an outing with Lacy’s family. Or there was the trip returning home from Baltimore during Easter that we needed a restroom and after exiting the highway, we got lost, ended up at a casino, used the restrooms, played the slots once and headed back home $50 richer. Or the time Laura was vending at an art event while Lacy was away and not expected home until the evening. Lacy booked an earlier flight and surprised Laura at the art show in the afternoon.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We knew we wanted to be ourselves even if others didn’t agree. We took a step back, set traditions aside and abandoned the phrases “should” and “supposed to”. We agreed on an overall vision relatively early in the process with the help of magazines and collaging in a sketchbook designated for wedding planning. We figured out the purpose of this day and built all decisions out from there. Laura was influenced by a podcast with the author Priya Parker where she talked about getting very clear on the purpose of a gathering. Decisions and direction are much smoother once the purpose is identified.
Lacy knew she was going to wear her mother’s wedding dress and Laura knew she was wearing a custom suit. We knew that we had to have a cool band with horns and tunes that make you want to dance.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
It took about 8 months to plan the wedding from start to “finish." It was very much a team effort through the entire planning process. We were both surprised at the willingness of friends to contribute to the wedding. Surprised by the generosity of friends and the offers to make our cake, handle the flowers, lend calligraphy and graphic design skills, consult on wedding planning and selecting vendors (specifically photographers!), organize a bridal shower, planning and organizing wedding day logistics.
Laura: I was surprised and caught off guard by having to think about a vendor’s views on same sex marriage. I was nervous during the venue and photographer search. What kind of reaction would I get when I told them I’m marrying a woman. Vendors could make this SO much easier by making a concerted effort to show that they are GLBTQIA friendly by showing “people like us” on their websites or social media. Put a rainbow badge of some sort on your website footer. I can say for certain that the venue we chose earned so many points from us because it took one click to arrive at the About Us page to see a photo of the venue owner and his husband.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
If you’re going on a honeymoon make sure you plan that as well. We flew to Portland Oregon for a 5 day mini moon. Aside from the Airbnb and air travel we failed to plan our time in Oregon. It’s not a resort and it definitely requires planning. Luckily, we sat next to someone on the plane that schooled us in the way of the PDX but we still had to take time out of our vacation to plan our days.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Create a detailed timeline and hire a wedding coordinator that knows the timeline and has reached out to all your vendors. Ensure everyone is on the same page and you don't have to worry about anything on your wedding day from setup to cleanup. Delegate every single responsibility to someone else and delegate someone to be the delegator. Our day was so awesome because we went in carefree, ready to enjoy every single second. We did not have to make one decision the day of the wedding. Margaret Fisher, the bestest friend in the world, coordinated the entire day, effortlessly (or so it appeared). Laura suggests reading up on Priya Parkers "The Art of Gathering" very early in the wedding planning process.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Favorite part?!?! We loved the entire day. It was honestly the best day of our lives... we don't want a do-over, but we definitely want a “do it again”!! The venue, food, entertainment, …everything was absolutely perfect. Our band was amazing! This Way to the Egress is not a cover or wedding band, they played original songs, with a few covers along the way, including our "second dance" to Jump in The Line. We had two semi-choreographed dances. The first dance after our entrance to the song Stand by Me performed by our string duo. Lacy choreographed both dances (she has no experience). The second dance was after dinner a couple songs into the band’s set, Jump in the Line by Harry Belafonte was played by our band. We wanted the day to be super laid back and FUN for everyone, which is one of the reasons we chose the band we did. Their style is a high energy entertaining performance, with a sound that can be described as klezmer, circus, with a New Orleans flair. For those wanting a little fresh air, we got personalized cornhole boards made specifically for our big day.
- Location: The Loft at Jacks Barn
- Photographer: Laura Billingham
- Paper Goods: Tricia Decker and Laura Pointon
- Catering: Davids County Inn
- Baker: Jennifer Hason, Edible Underground
- Band: This Way to the Egress
- Makeup: Makeup by Monica
- Attire: Bindle & Keep
- & Renee Sopko Seamstress
- Rings: Ginger Meek Allen
- Favors: Scatter Matter Studio
- Musicians: Penn Strings
- Décor: Catherine Lent Design, Custom Chalkboard Design