New York State Sweethearts
How did you meet?
We met while attending Mount Holyoke College- one of the best places in the world! We had a bunch of friends in common but our paths never passed until Brigid decided to climb on top of a tractor parked in the middle of campus and the only person willing to join her, was Caitlin. The next morning, Brigid walked into her first day of Into to Spanish to find the only open seat was next to Caitlin and the rest was history!
What about the proposal?
We don’t have one of those “we hiked to the top of a mountain at sunrise with a photographer” proposal stories! We had been together for 7 years and one night we decided ‘girlfriend’ just wasn’t cutting it anymore. It became a race to propose! Without realizing it, we both designed really similar rings from the same jeweler on Etsy, who emailed Brigid saying, “I have two rings going to the same building in the same city and I think I switched them!” We have the same brain and it’s crazy.
When did you know you wanted to be together?
As Brigid said in her vows, “I knew I wanted to marry you on December 18th, 2010, when you first told me you loved me by yelling it out of the window of a Peter Pan bus at the Boston Airport.” Caitlin (who always gets credit for saying ‘I love you’ first) wasn’t super into the idea of marriage in general but Brigid was persuasive and persistent! We were also long distance for two years while Brigid did Teach for America in California and Caitlin finished college at Mount Holyoke. Being on opposite sides of the country for two years made us realize how unhappy we were apart and how happy we made each other. We are best friends in addition to being madly in love and have known this was something crazy special since the very beginning.
What did you know you definitely wanted for you wedding?
We definitely knew we wanted it to be fun, we wanted it outdoors, and we wanted it to be personal. Part of it being personal was acknowledging all of the emotion we had in general in being two women getting married. We got engaged two years before while living in Missouri, as Brigid was going to law school, while it was still illegal for gay people to get married in our state. We decided to have one of our friends read a passage from the Supreme Court Obergerfell decision during the ceremony. Although it quadrupled the amount of tears, it was important for us to acknowledge all of the people who fought for us get here.
Did you have any hurdles or surprises during planning?
During the months before the wedding, Brigid was studying for the bar exam, which left a lot of planning on Caitlin’s shoulders! The biggest surprise for us was definitely in the details! There are so many things you have to consider, for example, signs to explain a flower toss, guestbook, timeline, etc. The more information for guests the better. Also, remembering every detail is tough on your own. We planned to have sparklers at our bonfire at the end of the night but completely forgot about it until the next week. Luckily, the Roxbury Barn and Estate is such magical place we didn’t even notice.
Is there anything you wish you had known going into planning?
We didn’t realize how much we would rely on our incredibly experienced and talented vendors. Our amazing photographer Erica helped us figure out our schedule while making all our photo dreams come true, and our DJ Julie was so helpful in going over the flow of the day and how to make it ours. Choosing vendors you really like that are there to help you plan all the little details makes everything SO much less stressful. We were so lucky to find talented and amazing people we worked with.
Any advice for couples who are planning weddings now?
Make it your own! Do whatever makes you happy because nothing else matters. Also, focus on choosing awesome people to work with who you would actually want to spend the day with! It makes a HUGE difference and matters way more than so many other aspects of the wedding. Pro tip: don’t get married a few weeks after taking the bar!
What was you favorite moment of the day?
We had a big bonfire at the end of the night and decided to take a moment for ourselves. We walked towards the woods, put some music on a cell phone, and danced under the stars. Having just gotten married, with all the emotions and happiness you have at the end of the night, it was so amazing to just dance, be together and take it all in.