A Dreamy Catskills Wedding
Tell us your love story!
Maria: After years of avoiding online dating, I finally posted a profile on OKCupid. Kate reached out, and weeks later we went on our first date. It was my first OkCupid date and it was my last! Turns out we only lived 7 blocks from one another the whole time.
What about the proposal?
Maria: Kate and I were out to dinner one night and she said, “I want to be with you forever.” And I said, “I want to be with you forever too.” And she said, “Are we engaged now?!” I said, “Baby, when we’re engaged you’ll know.” And so my journey to propose to Kate in the most epic and surprising of ways began.
Kate: Maria took me on a surprise getaway weekend without giving me any information other than what I should pack. We drove upstate where we went to Dia:Beacon, saw some exhibits, and then Maria took us to The Roundhouse – a hotel in Beacon. There, at a private table in the dining room (the entire staff knew!) Maria toasted to our love, got down on one knee, and asked me to be with her forever. I said yes, obviously!
Maria: It was perfect in every way. I filmed the whole thing secretly on my cell phone which I hid at a nearby table. We had the whole restaurant staff in tears.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
M: From the moment we began talking to one another, I was falling for Kate. I was only falling deeper and deeper as we dated. I kept telling my friends, “I’m falling so hard for this person.” I was just leaving out the word “love” because it felt too soon to say it.
K: I had a dream that Maria and I were in a small room together on a sinking ship, and I wasn’t afraid at all, even though I knew we were going to die - because we were together. I felt clear and calm. When I woke up, I told her that I loved her, and I’ve never questioned it since.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We didn’t really have any preconceived ideas about what we wanted until we actually committed to having a wedding together. Once we started planning, we knew we wanted the ceremony to take place in nature. We also knew we wanted the whole day to be queer and artful. We're both artists and we wanted the celebration of our love to feel like it was a reflection of who we are and what we create. This meant throwing An Epic Love Party! while also incorporating elements of tradition into our day and night.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Since neither of us had really prioritized a big wedding as a “dream” growing up, we were truly surprised by how emotionally committed we were to the process and planning. We realized quickly that we wanted everyone we loved to be present – which meant a big wedding! And big weddings come along with lots of unexpected twists and turns. And expenses! (The sheer cost of a wedding was definitely surprising.) But through it all, we remained super communicative and committed to one another’s expectations, impulses, and joy. We both feel like we’ve unlocked a level of our relationship at having thrown this amazing love party together. I wouldn’t say that is surprising, exactly, but it’s certainly pretty awesome.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Despite all the surprises, I wouldn’t change anything about the process. Absolutely everything and everyone came together to make our day what it was: perfect.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Weddings are certainly pricey, so my wife and I did a lot ourselves. From DIY’ing all of our décor, to picking up our flowers at a local flower farm – the list goes on. While it was a lot of work, it was also So Fun. So I would say: have fun! And don’t worry about things going wrong. Everything will ultimately work out exactly as it should, and sometimes the most beautiful moments are hidden in what first looks like a “mistake.”
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
It rained hard all day - from the moment we woke up until about 30 minutes before our outdoor ceremony. As we walked down the aisle, the clouds parted. And as our ceremony began, the sun shone down on us. It was remarkable. The clearest sign that our love was supported by the whole universe.