Garden State Brides
Tell us your love story!
We met the old fashioned way, before Tinder and Bumble, on okcupid.com. We were a 92% match…we're still figuring out that 8%.
What about the proposal?
I proposed to Emily in Deer Isle, Maine, overlooking the remote and breathtaking Conary Cove. Afterwards, I surprised her by inviting her whole family to a cabin on the ocean for a lobster bake and fireworks (it was the 4th of July after all).
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
Gigi: I knew I needed Emily in my life always when she accidentally sliced the tip of her finger off and had to rush to the Emergency Room. She ended up being fine, but it made me confront a reality without her. It wasn’t a world I wanted to be in. I knew I had to have her with me always.
Emily: The first summer we lived together we had no A/C and there was a long, brutal heat wave. We would go nearby to a river and spend these long days just sitting in the river, laughing and talking, and there was never one moment where it felt boring or stale or I wished we had A/C. There were also the tough times those first couple of years- we had a fight or I didn’t get a job I wanted- where it was challenging, painful, and uncomfortable, but the hard work felt so worth it. It was those moments where I saw how we could work together to support one another strengthen our relationship.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We definitely wanted a small wedding where we knew everyone and could talk to everyone that attended.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
It was a surprise to see how little things added up. There are aspects of an event like a wedding that you don’t even think of until randomly they come up. Bathroom flowers? Napkin ties? Photo booth props? I found that the day-of wasn’t particularly stressful. I delegated all of the day-of tasks and just trusted that if anything came up, someone would deal with it. I really was able to enjoy the day and not worry. We live in Boston, and the wedding was in New Jersey- about a 5 hour drive. So, there was a lot of back-and-forth the year leading up to the wedding. We would go down for a weekend and try to compact several tasks into a couple of days, which worked, but was an added challenge.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Sit down with each other and talk about what it will be like the day after you’re married. How happy and surreal everything will be. Don’t let the planning distract you from forever.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Don’t stress about what your Aunt Mildred thinks. As long as you love it, it is right.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Gigi: My favorite part of our wedding day was the Yichud, which is a Jewish tradition where right after the ceremony the couple spends some time alone. We went to the bridal suite and got to decompress, cry, and just enjoy each other. It was so light and beautiful. I got to say, “I love you” to my wife for the first of many times in our long life together.