Tell us how you met and fell in love!
College roommates! We were decent friends during freshman year at Rowan University, but only decided to live together along with two other friends for our sophomore year on campus. We got closer, chatted on AOL Instant Messenger often, and realized there was a connection after many late night walks and trips to the campus cafeteria without others. It was a very slow build to a relationship, which didn’t become real and never seemed like an option until after graduation.
Was there a proposal? Tell us about it!
Ryan proposed to Matt on New Year’s Eve from the comfort and familiarity of their living room. The apartment was freshly clean and still lit with Christmas lights. Friends were on the way over for a party. Ryan asked Matt to sit for one more surprise Christmas present (hint: it wasn’t a Christmas present) and Matt opened his eyes to a pocket sized Moleskine notebook. After a few pages of sweet love notes, the ring was hidden inside the back end of hollowed out pages.
Are you planning your wedding right away or giving yourself some time to just be engaged?
We waited at least 6 months before settling on a venue and getting into the planning. Part of the delay was winter laziness, but it felt right to carefully think about what we wanted first.
What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your spouse-to-be?
Ryan has learned to be more of an extrovert to keep up with Matt’s kinetic personality and charming, light-up-the-room energy. Matt is always learning to have Ryan’s level of patience around their two pet cats. So they scratched up the furniture…we’ll cover it with something.
What’s your favorite part of your relationship?
It’s pretty great that we can both operate in complete silence for long periods of time without feeling uncomfortable. At night, Ryan likes to read and Matt often joins him with his own book. For as many similarities as we have and for as much as we do together, it’s also great to exist within our own worlds.