Tell us your love story/ How did you meet?
Felix is from England and travels for work as Chief Steward on a Private Yacht, and José Miguel was an Account Manager for a Media Agency in Puerto Rico at the time we met. We met in Puerto Rico when Felix's Yacht was docked at the end of the season. What was meant to be a hookup (for Jose!) turned into an amazing weekend, and then an amazing week until the Yacht had to leave Puerto Rico all of the sudden. We kept talking every single day while he sailed back to Europe. When he eventually returned to his home he invited me over to England to come and visit, this was 3 months after meeting him for the first time. I flew to England and experienced the most amazing trip of my life. I returned back to Puerto Rico after a short but busy visit, both totally heartbroken for having to leave each other. We continued to talk every day, and shortly after we decided to officially date. Knowing that we would be 4000 miles apart from each other, we knew that it wasn't going to be easy to have a long distance relationship, but, somehow we made it work with endless flights, messages, calls and Facetime. It sounds cliché, “but absence really does make the heart grow fonder.” Two years later, we got married! We are young at heart, some would call it Peter Pan syndrome. We enjoy traveling, adventures, and discovering new places together. Felix is a huge foodie and we enjoy eating cuisine from places we visit. Our family and friends are an essential part of our lives, and we are very lucky to have been welcomed into each other’s families from opposite sides of the pond.
What about the proposal?
Well as Jose previously said, I was a little more reserved than him when it came to the commitment side of things, to be honest it freaked me out! I always knew I was going to propose to him, but I wanted to do it when it felt right. During our time and travels together there were many romantic opportunities to “drop the question” but it wasn’t until New Year’s Eve 2015 when it happened. I was transiting back to the yacht and stopped by Puerto Rico for 2 weeks on the way to spend a belated Christmas and New Year with him. I did not know Jose’s ring size and with the help from his twin sister, she had to perform some secret mission to get it.
The plan was to propose to him at midnight on NYE, but the engagement rings had not arrived from David Yurman in NYC and – unbeknownst to Jose, I was silently freaking out! Thankfully, the ring finally arrived on New Year’s Eve to the reception of the hotel, and as planned on the stroke of midnight in true fashion, with a little Dutch courage, I got down on one knee and popped the question. Since that day I have never looked back.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
I think ever since we got formal with our relationship, we knew that marriage was one of the possible outcomes if we wanted to make it work. As much as the long-distance was working well, we knew that at some point I would have to move to England to strengthen our relationship, marriage was one of the main options to enable me to do so. I was ready to get into that kind of commitment from day one, but Felix needed more time to come to the decision of taking the next step.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We knew we wanted it to be a close celebration with the people we love. We wanted to have a real party and take the focus off the wedding protocol, giving us the chance to have more fun with the whole thing. More than just a wedding, we wanted to make it an experience for our guests as, for some of them it was there first time in New York and Brooklyn.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Well, we came to a couple of curveballs at the beginning of the planning. We had originally planned to elope in Brooklyn in June and have the reception 4 months later in a huge villa in Puerto Rico’s west side Rincon, where all our family and friends would meet and party. We started to plan for our wedding 10 months before the actual date in October, but we later discovered that we had to reschedule the date of the reception by a week and unfortunately the villa in which our hearts were set on, was unavailable along with the wedding planner. Luckily, we had not yet paid the deposit on the Villa so no money was lost, only our whole wedding plan!
When we realized that a Puerto Rico wedding wasn’t going to happen it was back to the drawing board for us both, it was a disappointing time. We had already booked the photographer and wedding officiant to elope in Brooklyn in June, before the original plan of getting married in PR in October. This was to eliminate a formality in the paperwork of getting the wedding certificate translated from Spanish to English if we were to elope in PR. So, after seizing our options, we decided in to have just one wedding in New York and work as fast as possible to make it happen.
We had less than 3 months to plan the wedding, we decided to go without the help of a wedding planner, but we did get help from the Wythe Hotel where our new chosen venue was. They were excellent, especially Abija and Nochole who dealt with any questions and demands we had. With Felix working away on board the yacht, and Jose in Puerto Rico it wasn’t exactly easy, it became more of an obsession. Ironically, we spent more time with the logistics and schedule of the day than the actual details. Once we came to an agreement of what the day was going to look like, we moved to get quotes and the rest was pretty much smooth (for the most part.)
I don’t think there’s ever such thing as an easy planning, even more when you have two people with very specific ideas of what they want. At the end, it’s about communication and to see where each one can compromise for the benefit of the whole event.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Not as much with the planning of the day, as we knew it was going to be a hard task regardless. The one thing that we really wish knew better was the legal stuff. We scheduled our flights with little room before and after the wedding, so we had to spend lots of hours at offices the day after the wedding to get the wedding license and the wedding certificates. If we knew better how it was going to go, we would have left ourselves more time in NYC to do that, and not having to wait in line for hours the day after the wedding while our guests had a leisurely day in Manhattan.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
My main advice would be communication and patience. Planning a wedding is an awesome but stressful time. You have to know when to obsess about it and when to take a step back and leave it for a bit. In our case, we almost called the wedding off over the flowers, just because we were so stressed and exhausted we couldn’t handle any more discussions about the topic. At that point, we both agreed to ban the “wedding talk” for a week and get back to us, because it was totally consuming us. Keep it cool but don’t forget why you are doing it and that you still have to take time to talk about those things that make you the couple that you are.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
We can’t pick just one. Because we got to plan the whole of the wedding via emails and 6000km apart from each other, we never got to physically see anything beforehand, only through the internet, we didn’t even taste the cake! With that, as the day of the wedding came, all of the hard work we put into the day unfolded in front of us. We were just as surprised with everything, as the guests were experiencing it at the same time as us. The whole day came to be one surprise after the next and that made it even more magical. Another one of my favorite parts was having the photographs taken, Jennifer McFarlane from Stylish and Hip weddings was brilliant, she knew exactly what we should do and where to go for the best pictures. I loved the smoke bombs, which were Jose’s idea, just that small detail made such an impact and they caused a lot of laughter in the streets Brooklyn.
- Photography By Eloping Is Fun
- Ceremony At Brooklyn Bridge Park
- Cocktail Hour Location By River Cafe
- Getting Ready Location & Reception Venue By Wythe Hotel
- Videography By Kiss The Bride Films
- Florals By Sprout Home
- Catering & Dessert By Wythe Hotel
- Officiant By Eloping Is Fun
- Attire By Michael Kors
- & Ted Baker
- & J. Lindeberg
- Rings By David Yurman
- Vintage Taxi Cab By FilmCars