Tell us your love story!
Luke and Whit’s first in a somewhat stereotypical way. It was on a Pride Weekend - Luke had been volunteering at a pro-equality booth for his company, and Whit was out wrangling his pals, making sure they were taken care of. Luke walked right up to Whit and simply asked “How tall are you?,” which Whit had already heard dozens of times that night. But this time was different -- and the two have grown, in love, together ever since.
What about the proposal?
Whit and Luke were at Whit’s parents’ house for a Sunday dinner. Whit then invited Luke into the kitchen to help clean up – which Luke knew was a bit unusual. Whit shared a story about how his father had proposed to his mother in his grandmother’s kitchen, and he offered Luke his grandmother’s watch as a token of his love.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
They would have difficulty saying there was a specific time or day that either of them could say this, but even from very early on being together, they both felt that they simply weren’t interested in not being around one another. Whit has described Luke as his spiritual echo, which Luke feels is just as good a description as any other to describe their relationship.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
They knew that their wedding must be filled with thoughtful spirituality and meaning, and they were not looking for an over-the-top, large-scale celebration. Avid travelers, Luke & Whit had both been enchanted by time spent exploring Paris in the previous months, and had scheduled a return trip to the city. As a city about light, ideas and art, Paris then became their host, and she treated them kindly like a friend during their special day.
Elements of the wedding festivities stretched out over a few days, which helped Luke & Whit savor it.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Their pastor, Michelle Wahila, connected them with a great team of people who were experts in their fields. After lots of advanced calls & emails passed back & forth, the able group helped everything to go smoothly during the day. During the wedding day, most everything was easy as pie, and the joyful couple simply spent the day taking in the sights, sounds, and tastes of the beautiful city of Paris on a crisp, bright day – casually snapping pictures with the most beautiful backdrops imaginable with the wonderful Krystal Kenney.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Option 1: Everyone tells you that the day will absolutely fly by. Although Luke and Whit knew this, and they worked hard to be present and simply soak in the day, it bears repeating for all others who plan to have a wedding. It’s a day about love, first and foremost, so let it be an expression of that love all day long. Simply be present, and enjoy yourself! Let the thoughtful symbols you’ve chosen become a bookend for your day’s memories.
Option 2: It’s the age of Uber/Lyft/Ridesharing, and they realized afterward that they likely could easily have relied on these options for getting around the city of Paris on their special day, without needing to rely on a scheduled driver --who may have had a bit of a challenge parking & waiting & magically appearing again-- in the bustling city of Paris.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
For Luke and Whit, having a small ceremony in a city far away from where they live meant that they did not have friends and family present. Though they of course would have enjoyed sharing their special day with loved ones, ultimately they were able to focus on one another and simply enjoy themselves during this day. They had an absolutely great time, and really would not have changed a thing. Friends and family were involved in symbolic ways.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Thanks to the work of some special planning help from Alisa Morov, they were able to enjoy a picnic right in front of the Eiffel Tower, filled with all manner of fresh French bounty. Their pastor, Michelle Wahila, offered communion during this time, which was truly a special moment that they were able to share, kicking off their time together with a sense of spirituality central to their relationship together. As Pastor Michelle stated – all are welcome at the table – and they hope to live their lives together with this message close to heart.