A Sweet Green & Purple Soirée
Tell us your love story!
Ely: We met through a mutual friend in middle school who brought Nikki to have lunch with the set “crew” on the first day of school. It was hardly love at first sight- disdain might be a better word. I was all goth and grease and hair dye and Nikki radiated sunshine and puppies. Strangely, we became fast friends and were quickly inseparable. Just over a year later, our relationship was the world's worst kept secret. Dating at such a young age was sweet, if emotional, but the immaturity also led to an undercurrent of jealousy and a swift and awkward end two years in. But wait- if we broke up at 15, how'd we end up happily married? Well, we were two stubborn people very dedicated to lying to ourselves, and over the years, as our friendship grew more and more intense, we kept falling back into each other and it kept getting harder and harder to explain our relationship to outsiders. There just wasn't a simple word for the fireworks in my heart every time Nikki smiled, or the warmth that flowed over me when our hands slipped together. Finally, about two years ago, we dropped labels altogether and just let the extraordinary bond between us do it's thing.
What about the proposal?
Nikki: The topic of marriage came up a lot the past year and we already knew we would be spending the rest of our lives together. One night I got a message that said, “Hey, do you wanna get a marriage license tomorrow?”
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
E: I knew when we were 14 years old. We'd been together maybe a year and I had never been interested in the whole marriage and kids, house and future thing, but looking into her eyes, even at that age I knew she was it for me.
N: A few years ago, when we first decided to move away together, I could see everything falling into place, even after plans had changed the thing that stayed the same was that we were together.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
N: We knew we wanted a small wedding, not too many guests.
E: And we definitely knew we were going to need gluten-free food, because our very good friend has celiac disease.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
N: How giving all of our friends and family are! So many people were willing to give so much of their time to make our big day special and ended up saving us a lot of money. I think the most difficult part was actually just figuring out what kind of food we wanted. Ely wanted dino nuggets.
E: I was surprised by how easy it was to find a vegan, gluten-free caterer, to be completely honest! Angela was amazing and so accommodating and I could not be more grateful for having found her, since we really needed those dietary needs met for medical reasons. For me, it caught me off guard how difficult it was to just find a place to get a cake. Because of the rush of the wedding planning, we didn't have time to order months in advance, and that was a challenge in finding our centerpiece dessert.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
E: I wish I'd known that people would be happy to spend so much on gifts, because I ended up being so overwhelmed! We made a registry and I expected to get maybe a couple items off it, but it was pretty much cleared and I still get flustered about it.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
N: Don't plan your wedding in two months. We'd definitely extend our timeline if we did it again. Other than that, it was perfect!
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
N: The reception, seeing all our friends and family together having a good time, being able to relax after the stress of planning.
E: Honestly, my favorite part was after the ceremony when Nikki and I went to In & Out with our maids of honor and got food while the reception was set up. I was still riding high from the thrill of finally saying “I do” and we were back in our familiar haunt doing what we always do, just looking a whole lot fancier. It was really nice.