Love & Sex
Sex Toys Made By & For YOU!
This post is probably NSFW, though I’m not 100% sure what that means because I work from bed most of the time…
I really have a terrible job. It all started when I found this innovative feminist vibrator company. “That looks amazing,” I thought, as I got sucked into my usual Instagram vacuum. Then it dawned on me. There are probably a lot of amazing feminist, up-and-coming sex toy brands and I suppose I could bear the brunt of finding them and “researching” their products. Ugh. FINE! So, my hunt began. I wanted to find some socially conscious, eco conscious, natural, organic, feminist sex toy brands because, let’s be honest, much like a group of old white men in government making decisions about the bodies of women, trans and genderqueer folks, those same pasty, small-minded males have no idea what actually brings a female body pleasure. It can be hard, as a lesbian, to find sex toys that are great for me and my sexual partners. Outside of BDSM/kink toys (those seem to be mostly similar every type of person) it’s vibrators and dildos and they’re all basically the same, as far as I've ever been to discern.
Then Dame walks into the party and everyone immediately swoon. Let me tell you, the creators of Dame are doing good work. They have two different models of vibrators. Eva is more for couples play - it actually sits inside your lips and stays put on your clit - and the Fin is great for solo use. My girlfriend and I tried them both and we are basically in love. (with each other, yes, but also with these toys!) Both of these vibrators are unlike anything I’ve seen before. They are clearly made by women with the female body in mind. Fin has a little strap/loop that your fingers go through so you can keep a comfortable hold on it while it’s in use. So brilliant!
I'd be lying if I said I didn't have a major crush on Bethany of Maven Made. She is super passionate about essential oils and takes such care with her products. I actually use one of her face oils daily, so when she sent us the Tonka Bean + Lavendar Spray, I was pretty excited. This stuff is so subtle and soothing. It absolutely changes the energy in the room. I suggest a few sprays on the bed linens before getting freaky. Scent is the strongest sense, after all.
I'm all about heightened senses, so, when La Abeja Herbs shared their Damiana Elixir, I was all in. Damiana (Turnera aphrodisiaca) is a warming herb which brings circulation to the periphery of the body and especially to the sexual centers. It increases sensation in all areas of the body, and can bring one deeply in touch with the deep pleasure of embodiment and sensuality. And....SOLD.
I am definitely more earthy/hippie/zen than my girlfriend, so I was basically squealing when our Chakrubs showed up. Again, can I reiterate how terrible this job is ;). These gorgeous crystal dildos are created with the intention of opening oneself up to the healing properties crystals provide. Crystals have perfect molecular structures that have positive effects on our electro-magnetic fields. When our energetic bodies are at ease, we are at ease, we are open to healing, to peace, to love, to all of life's pleasures. After the first use, my gf was converted. There really is something amazing about these pieces - the connectedness, the simplicity, the energy. It's all totally palpable. The Rose Wand is our personal fave. It has just enough curve to get the job done, but it's not overwhelming.
Many good romps require lube and, our research proved no different. My girlfriend is vegan and, as many of you know, lube often ends up in a lot of different places, including, but not limited to your mouth. I was on the hunt for a vegan lube that actually worked. Many natural lubes are water-based, which means they dry out quickly and you constantly have to reapply. I found Good Clean Love Almost Naked lube, which is ah-mazing! It's aloe vera based and 95% organic. It's better than water based lubes, but lasts much longer! We were thrilled.
All-in-all, I'd say it's been a successful month of research!
The best part is that many of these companies gave us DISCOUNT CODES, so all of you lovely folks can give these products a try for yourselves! Here they are!
Maven Made: H&HMAVEN (for 20% off)
Dame: HHWEDDINGS (for 10% off)
Chakrubs: HHWeddings15 (for 15% off)
La Abeja Herbs: SummerLovin (for 10% off)
Good Clean Love: GCL25 (for 25% off)