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"The world seems

somehow quieter

when you are

next to me,

as though my senses

cannot focus

on anything

but you."

- Blake Auden

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Sarah Title_key Destinie

Real Wedding
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A Friday the 13th Full Harvest Moon Wedding

Tell us your love story!

Sarah and Destinie met via the social media site Tumblr back in 2015 while they were 17 and 18 years old. Destinie had moved back to her hometown in South Jersey after living in CA, while chance would have it that Sarah’s childhood home had always been a quick 15-minute drive across town. Nothing short of fate brought their two Tumblr profiles together to find each other, having Sarah slide in Destinie’s DMs to fangirl over Marvel movies. Their family and friends laughed as their relationship bloomed quickly, but the pair laughed because they knew they had found something special in the other.

In stereotypical lesbian fashion, Sarah and Destinie moved in together 9 months after their first date. They transferred Universities in order to finish their bachelor’s degrees together, side by side. The couple describes their wedding as being an outward embodiment of their relationship together and their respective personalities. Sarah is heavily interested in the death positive movement and mortuary sciences, and Destinie creates memorial jewelry using animal remains. Their engagement photos had been taken at Pennhurst Asylum in Pennsylvania in June of 2018. Together, the couple collected and created unusual pieces for their wedding. The majority of their wedding was DIY; Destinie tenderly refers to the creation of which as being a labor of pure love. Sarah and Destinie poured their hearts and souls into every detail of their wedding, creating a truly unique vision that encapsulates their authentic selves. The officiant of their wedding was Destinie’s brother-in-law, Brett, who had officiated the wedding of two of her other siblings. Brett worked closely with the couple to create a ceremony as unique as them; this included replacing the traditional “giving away” of the brides with a respectful exchange were each bride is asked if they come of their own free will and have their family’s blessing, a hand-fasting ceremony, and sharing honey mead from a goblet. Even with all of the planning that went into their wedding, nothing but pure cosmic fate could have predicted that the pair would be wed on a full harvest moon on a Friday the13th!

To give an example of the love that went into the wedding, here are a few of the things that Destinie and Sarah made/collected. Together, with the help of Destinie’s father, the couple sanded and stained mini coffins which acted as both name cards and wedding favors for their guests. The flower petals and miscellaneous bones scatters about the guest tables, along with the doe skulls hung on the arbor, were collected by the pair on their adventures through the woods near their home. The hand-fasting cord that was used during the ceremony was loving designed and braided by Sarah. The necklaces worn by the bridesmaids, as well as the earrings Sarah wore, were created by Destinie using squirrel bones. Destinie poured herself into designing and soldering the crowns that they both wore, carefully crafting pieces that complimented each other while also maintaining individualism. Last, but certainly not least, together the couple designed their wedding rings in Photoshop and had them custom-made.

What about the proposal?

Shortly after moving in together, Destinie took Sarah on a weekend getaway to a quaint B&B in North Jersey. It was at Ringing Rock State Park that the couple set out to have a romantic picnic together that Destinie had planned in secret for weeks. Tucked inside of the picnic basket was a handmade ring box that Destinie created with her grandfather using a fallen tree branch. When Sarah reached into the basket to grab the food, she was met with the topside of the rustic box, wood burned with the question, “Marry Me?”

To say Sarah was surprised would be an understatement, but it was quickly replaced with joy & excitement. She felt giddy as she looked down at her ring, realizing just what this piece of jewelry meant; life-long commitment filled with love. Destinie’s heart soared when Sarah said, “Yes!”

When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?

Destinie confesses that she knew from their second date: Originally, we were only supposed to meet for lunch downtown. When lunch finished we slowly got our things together, our feet dragging as we walked to the car. I didn’t want this date to end, there was something about Sarah, like she had this gravitational pull to her and I was caught in her orbit. Instead of leaving, we walked through the beautiful town of Collingswood, joking and talking while we popped into shops. We still weren’t ready for the day to end so we continued to drive around, stopping at random places. It was that evening when Sarah charged at me with a plastic gladiator mask & sword in the middle of a Halloween store that I knew this was the person I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. Finally, an equally weird person who was unashamed at flaunting her weirdness, it was all I had ever dreamed for. It was only made sweeter by Sarah’s beauty and spunkiness, and her kind heart. There was this feeling that I can only describes as coming home that washed over me in that aisle, like I had been traveling for so long and finally saw a porch light in the night.

Sarah says that she also knew they were meant to be with each other during their second date: There was no specific moment during that date but rather the entire day as a whole gave me the feeling that we would be together forever. From the way that we talked to each other with ease from the start, never a dull moment, like we’ve always known each other. I normally don’t goof around too much or act out in public for fear of drawing attention to myself, but as we were standing there in the middle of the Halloween store that feeling of judgement was non-existent. That was when I reached for the sword and challenged Destinie to a dual in the middle of the aisle. I remember how when she accepted she had this big smile on her face and a twinkle of mischief in her eyes; her smile made my heart skip a beat. That entire day as we drove from destination to destination, I never thought about others around me or worried about if people were judging me, all I cared about was the woman in front of me and how much fun we were having. Being with her that day felt like I was reunited with a long-lost loved one, it felt so natural and familiar being with her. I didn’t want that day, or that feeling, to end. Even after I dropped her off at her house all I could think about was the next time that I could see her. It was that day that I knew we were meant for each other and that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with Destinie.

Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?

From the moment we got engaged we knew that we wanted to have an outdoor wedding and get married under a tree. We also knew that we wanted to have a nontraditional ceremony that had pagan & Viking elements to it. It was important to both of us to have a unique wedding that we felt reflected us as a couple. Once we got a bit further into the planning we knew that we wanted to have a Friday the 13th wedding, it fit too perfectly into everything that we wanted to embody in the wedding

What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?

What surprised us during planning was realizing just how much goes into a wedding, especially when you don’t have a wedding planner and you decide to do nearly everything DIY. Destinie wants to point out that it was difficult to navigate picking vendors for the wedding while being a same-sex couple. The vendors we did pick were all either referred by family/friends or heavily researched before reaching out to ensure that we wouldn’t be putting ourselves in an uncomfortable position. We got lucky and had such an amazing group of vendors that were very supportive and understanding. The designing process for the wedding was easy and a source of great enjoyment for us. We compiled inspiration photos on a Pinterest board to bring our vision to life while doing our DIY projects. While creating the décor for the wedding wasn’t particularly easy, it was one of the most enjoyable parts that allowed us to really come together and make something beautiful for the wedding.

Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?

Looking back, Sarah says she wishes that they had known it was okay to not try to please everyone, and that it doesn’t make you selfish to do what makes you happy. Destinie says that it would have been nice to be told that it’s okay to break tradition/create new traditions and do the unexpected.

Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?

Remember, this is YOUR day, it’s important to do the things that make you and your partner happy.

What was your favorite part of your wedding day?

Destinie’s favorite part of the wedding was: In all honesty, my favorite part of the wedding was the getting ready part in the morning. Sarah, myself, and our bridesmaids all got ready in the same room. It was amazing having everyone in one place, we were laughing & joking & happy crying together while getting our hair & make-up done. I think back on those moments fondly, remembering the light filtering in through the windows and the laughter ringing like wind chimes in the room.

Sarah’s favorite part of the wedding was: The dancing during the reception! Near the end of the night, after the majority of the guests had left, there was a small group of us left on the dance floor. Those last few dances were my absolute favorite, it was an amazing feeling of closeness as we all formed a circle in the middle of the dance floor, holding hands, and all singing along to the last song of the night, Queen’s– Somebody to Love.

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A Thought For Thursday
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Honey

I'd walk through fire for you

Just let me adore you

Oh, honey

I'd walk through fire for you

Just let me adore you

Like it's the only thing I'll ever do

Like it's the only thing I'll ever do

- Harry Styles, Adore You

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Kelsey Title_key Hallie

Real Wedding
gallery Mar 24 2020
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Alabama Brides

Tell us your love story!

Hallie: Short story? We met through a mutual friend. Long long story? Let’s go back to 2012. I was 23 years old, I had just started to come out. I was on the phone with a friend of mine talking about how in the world do you meet girls?! She randomly mentioned that I would probably like one of her friends. So she gave me her name and naturally I did some Facebook research. The girl she mentioned was Kelsey.

My friend was right, I was immediately interested in this cute girl who I saw on social media! However, how do you go about messaging a girl you don’t actually know? So life continued. Fast forward a bit, maybe 2013-ish. My guy friend and I are just hanging out, and he tells me about his step sister who I had never met. He shows me some pictures and I see a familiar face in those pictures. Small world, but my guy friend’s step sister was dating none other than Kelsey! I recognized this girl (who I still didn't know) from a few years before. Hmm, she’s still cute, but obviously unavailable. Again, life continues.

Fast forward to 2015. I had just moved back to Birmingham. My guy friend was trying to help me out with making some new friends, so he suggested that maybe he and I get together with his step sister and step sister’s girlfriend (Kelsey). Still following? Well, that get together never ended up happening, we just couldn’t get all of our schedules together. No big deal. So now, fast forward once more to 2016. My guy friend randomly tells me that his step sister andKelsey broke up. Okay…? I really didn’t know either of them, so it was just random chit chat with my friend. But then...then I happen to see Kelsey on a dating site. I thought about it for a minute, and then I decided, “What the heck!” I finally messaged this girl that I thought was cute since 2012.

After making sure she knew who I was and that we were actually supposed to hang out way back when, I gave her my number. We texted for a few days and then I decided I needed to meet this girl. Apparently I was really hard to read via text, so what I thought was a first date, Kelsey actually thought was just a friendly get together, ha! We met at Avondale Brewery for a beer...and you know...the rest is history. I married the first girl that ever really caught my eye.

What about the proposal?

Kelsey: I thought that Hallie was going to propose to me the weekend of my birthday when we had planned a trip to New Orleans with all of my closest friends. Turns out, she completely surprised me by proposing the weekend before! I had been working at our church all weekend for our youth retreat. After it was over on Sunday, we were supposed to go to the Redmont Hotel and eat lunch at their restaurant for a family birthday. We got there early before everyone else. My friend Sydney was the Front Office Manager there and she wanted to take me up to the rooftop bar to see some of the changes we made.When we got up to the rooftop, we ordered a drink and then Hallie excused herself to go to the restroom. I noticed that they were playing Hanson, our favorite band, over the speakers, so I started singing. Little did I know this was a full Hanson playlist that Hallie put together for them to play. I went outside with Sydney as she toured me around the rooftop (which overlooks Birmingham in the most beautiful way). We came around the corner and Hallie was there waiting for me. On the couch next to her were large wooden letters that said, “Marry Me?” and vases of sunflowers (my favorite). It was absolutely wonderful and completely threw me off guard! Of course I said yes.

After we had a mini photo shoot on the rooftop, we were heading down the elevator and Hallie told me that no one was actually joining us for lunch, and that it would just be the two of us to celebrate. How sweet, right? Well, we get to the ground floor, and the elevator doors open to reveal both of our entire families. It was absolutely wonderful and another unexpected surprise for a perfect day.

When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?

Kelsey: I knew the night we were both sitting on the couch at her apartment watching a movie. It was not a crazy and memorable night filled with details. I don’t even remember what movie we were watching. All I know is that we had yet to even tell each other, “I love you.” I just looked at her and she asked me what I was thinking. After a long pause, I just said, “yep…” and she knew exactly what I was thinking. She said, “yep…” back to me, and we continued to watch our movie.

Hallie: It felt right from the very beginning. Even as early as the second week when we were just randomly making whale noises like Dory and laughing uncontrollably.

Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?

Kelsey: Hallie definitely knew she did NOT want to be outside. I had always pictured an outdoor ceremony with an indoor reception. We compromised and I said that if we couldn’t be outside, then I wanted a lot of natural lighting. Other than that, the only thing we both knew for certain is that neither of us wanted to get married in a barn. That was not our depiction of the perfect wedding day. Other than that, neither Hallie nor I were the type of girl who had a Pinterest board of all of our wedding dreams.

Hallie: Really just no barns. Nothing wrong with them, just not us at all. People in Alabama like their barn weddings.

What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?

Kelsey: Planning was actually quite easy for us. I handle the detail and coordination for events and weddings at my job. I knew where to start and what questions to ask to make the process seamless. We had 80% of all of the planning completed, with vendor contracts signed, within a week of getting engaged. However, that doesn’t mean that there were not hiccups in the planning process! The first major issue happened when our original photographer completely ghosted us. We had a lovely introductory phone call with them, signed a contract, paid a deposit ...and then we never heard from them again. About three months away from the wedding date, we reached out to them via email and phone multiple times with no response. After doing some research, Hallie was able to find that this had been happening to multiple couples. Needless to say we were in crisis mode. A friend of mine who is a wedding photographer, sent out a blast to her community of other photographers with our details. Within a couple of hours, she had a list of photographers who were happy to help us and work within our parameters! That is where John Myers Photography came into the picture, and we couldn’t be happier! It was truly a blessing in disguise.The second most difficult part was honestly deciding who to invite to ensure a good mix of family and friends. Unfortunately, we couldn’t just invite the entire world or else we would have. It turned out to be wonderful, and surprisingly, a large number of the guests were all members from our church! Seriously, who would have thought a lesbian couple getting married in Alabama would have such a supportive church community?

Hallie: I was surprised at the number of stamps we needed!

Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?

Kelsey: I really don’t think there is anything else I would go back and change. It truly was a wonderful day.

Hallie: I probably would have made sure to really keep the guests away after the ceremony when we took all of our family photos. Most of them were not around, but the few that were made it very distracting and somehow I ended up not being in one of the family photos, whoops! Everyone is just so excited, so that part is a tad chaotic, haha.

Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?

Kelsey: There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking questions.Please know that the more questions you ask, the better understanding you have for your vendors, and the better understanding they have for what you are wanting. Also, I HIGHLY recommend getting a day of coordinator. Even if you don’t have a wedding planner, a day of coordinator will removel oads of stress off your back. Because of her, neither Hallie nor I had to worry about anything. We got to enjoy the day while knowing that everything was going smoothly. For example, the car we were leaving in died about 30 minutes before we were about to depart. Dana got people together to get the car working and we didn’t even know anything was wrong! Talk about a wonder woman.

Hallie: Definitely get a day of coordinator, but also! If you are planning on going on your honeymoon right after the wedding, give yourself at least one day in between! We got married on Saturday and left for our honeymoon on Monday. That one day in between was MUCH needed.We recuperated at home instead of using our first day of our honeymoon to recuperate.

What was your favorite part of your wedding day?

Kelsey: My absolute favorite part of the wedding day was after Hallie and I left the ceremony and walked back up the aisle and into our holding room. The first moment that we looked at each other and were officially MARRIED was surreal.

Hallie: It’s hard to pinpoint a certain moment, but I love that I really have no idea exactly who was there that day because I was having so much fun with my WIFE :) My second favorite thing though...that we both had our own father-daughter dances.

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