As you probably know by now, I am not the most traditional person around. I don't like structures that force people to do things that they aren't comfortable with and I don't like the notion that things need to be a certain way. I think things, like your wedding day, should be whatever you want it to be. That being said, I have recently been writing about ways to dismantle wedding traditions. The next tradition on the list to forget about? Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.
In this tradition, something old represents continuity; something new offers optimism for the future; something borrowed symbolizes borrowed happiness; something blue stands for purity, love, and fidelity; and a sixpence in your shoe is a wish for good fortune and prosperity.
I only half believe in luck. I mostly think your life (and marriage) are what you make them. And the idea of "fidelity and purity"? No, thank you. Please don't tell me how to live my life. All of that being said, some folks enjoy incorporating wedding traditions throughout their special day, so I wanted to talk about one way to work in a "something blue" without keeping it too conventional.
Did someone say drinks?! Why yes, I did.
I found this recipe for a color changing cocktail a while back and I have been dying to try it. It's basically a piña colada that changes color from blue to pink. What the what!? I am obsessed. This is the perfect way to nod to tradition, but keep it modern.
Owl's Brew let me use some of their AH-mazing tea mixers. I chose the Coco Lada (chai tea with coconut and pineapple), because, duh. The cocktail is super easy and would be a great addition to any cocktail hour or reception! They are beautiful, but also interactive.
Here's the recipe:
1 3/4 oz Butterfly Pea Flower infused Brugal White Rum
2 oz coconut milk
1 1/4 oz Owl's Brew Coco Lada
Shake all ingredients well, strain over ice
Garnish with a slice of lime and pineapple leaves
Add 3/4 oz lime juice when you're ready for the color change!
I used the W&P Designs crushed ice tray because the ice looks like crystals, which makes this drink look even more magical!
SO easy, colorful and fun! And did we mention it's delicious and perfect for any summer/tropical fête?
Follow this link to find Owl's Brew near you!
Styling by Kristen Poissant
"She's a lightning strike
and I'm the grinning
arms raised and laughing,
in the middle
We're getting married out of the country. How far in advance should we send our save-the-dates?
Generally speaking, if you are getting married out of the country, or if you're planning a wedding around a major holiday, you should send your save-the-dates about a year in advance. This allows your guests the time make travel arrangements. If this is the case, we suggest you contact your hotel to make sure they take reservations a year in advance.
If you're having a wedding that will not require major travel by your guests, four to six months is standard.
From The Photographer:
In the middle of October, Andrew posted an ad looking for a photographer to assist in a surprise proposal to his boyfriend of 4 years, Judah. They moved from Louisiana about a year ago and he wanted to propose to Judah at one of their favorite places. Both of their families flew to New York on the 5th (per Andrew's directions without Judah having any idea) to surprise Judah at his proposal.
The experience was amazing. Watching Andrew walk the love of his life to the fountain, where both of their families were awaiting their arrival, stood there with rose petals on the concrete and smiles on their faces. You could tell this is something they had been waiting on for a while. After Judah said yes and we captured a few family shots, we maneuvered our way through the neighborhood for a quick session with the newly-engaged couple. They were so sweet and you can just feel the love between them.
Later on that night (not shown here bc they had another photographer), Andrew and Judah took their vows and tied the knot. To me, it was a fairy tale from beginning to end. I want an "Andrew" in my life.