A Thought For Thursday
"And if I
could only have
it would still be
"And if I
could only have
it would still be
Tell us your love story!
We met through a mutual friend who suggested we hang out since Dan worked in the suburbs and Will lived there at the time. Finally finding a time that worked we met for what was technically our first date at Potbelly.
What about the proposal?
After enjoying a wonderful meal at Topolobampo, Will suggested a late night walk along Lake Michigan. It was at Belmont Harbor where Will got down on one knee with Dan saying “no, no, no, no, no” as he freaked out which very soon became a “yes." A couple months later, during another magical meal in Vegas, at the Picasso Restaurant with a table on a patio on the Bellagio Fountain pond, Dan proposed to Will. We didn’t know the protocol for proposals so it only seemed right.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
When Will took Dan to a Blackhawks game and Dan tried so hard to understand hockey and all the rules.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We definitely knew that it had to center around food. As with most big moments through our relationship they revolved around high end restaurants, usually with Michelin Star ratings. We knew that our wedding had to involve around that and we were so excited Oriole accepted.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
Logistics and details were difficult. We knew what we had in mind for a whirlwind weekend that involved a lot of different people and events and at times it became overwhelming to know how it would all work out. But in the end it came together. The easy part was the main dinner. The only thing we had to choose was the wine pairings and pre-dinner cocktails. Maybe it took some time to decide, but the tastings were fun. Come to think of it, the cake tastings were fun and easy too. Yum!
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
Go to Disney World and ask for the “Just Engaged” button. You’ll be treated like royalty.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Be different. Our wedding weekend was unlike any wedding we’d been to before, which made it fun and memorable for our guests. It centered around the things we love and was an expression of us. While it’s exciting to get extravagant for a wedding, keep it connected to some of your day to day activities. That way you feel like you’re sharing your life with you friends on your special weekend, and you will constantly have reminders back to your wedding weekend. Make it a priority that at one point during your reception you and your spouse get away for a couple minutes to just be together away from everyone and everything else. Hold hands during this time and connect with each other in the moment.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
Cruising around Chicago in the trolley with friends and family. We really enjoyed taking pictures and having a fun time with it and it was a time when everyone could let loose and enjoy themselves to the fullest.
"I'm scared to death that she might be it
That the love is real, that the shoe might fit
She might just be my everything and beyond (beyond)
Space and time in the afterlife
Will she have my kids? Will she be my wife?
She might just be my everything and beyond"
Courtney and I met at the gym in Sterling, VA. The second I saw her, I knew she was the one for me - the one person I am meant to spend this lifetime and more with. There was this familiar feeling as though we had already known each other and as though we were already in love.
Something in my heart lit up and stayed lit from the moment I saw her. I didn't know my feelings for her could continue growing but they have and it was like the universe brought us together to love one another and spend this life together. She felt the same way - drawn to one another and so in love. Even to this day our love has grown, she is on her 5th week in Air Force basic training and I have only received a 15 minute phone call and some letters, but am sure to write her daily and miss her as though the biggest part of me is missing. Before she left she knew we would be spending our first wedding anniversary apart so she surprised me by taking me to one of my favorite places (a plant conservatory) and had a photographer there while we read our vows again. We both had thought we felt love or knew love before, but this relationship has defined both of our true meanings of love and what love is supposed to feel like.
What is the best quality about the other person?
Since the beginning I’ve been drawn to Courtney - she has this infectious smile and calming affect on me that makes me feel complete and safe. All things I didn't feel before, but I feel now. After 2 years together she is still the only person I’d never want to experience any part of life without. We both have big smiles and have been told by even our family and friends that our love is felt and seen between us and we spread love and happiness with that. Our grandmothers never understood our sexuality until they experienced being in the same room with us - they said “it all makes sense, this is love.” Our wedding day was filled with so much love and laughter and it was as though all the people from across the US that gathered together and never met before had already known each other and shared the same love. Things weren’t hard - they just fell into place and there was no fighting - everyone just shared love and laughter.
What is the best thing that your significant other has taught you?
How to love, be loved fully and to never allow someone else to manipulate me into being anything other than myself. When we first met I was in an extremely toxic, abusive relationship and didn’t see any ending. Courtney was my light, still is my light. She showed me what “safe love” is. I learned that it was “safe enough to stay” and that I was worthy of receiving the same love I always gave others. Her love has brought me life and myself again. It was as though I was made for loving her and spending this lifetime and every lifetime before and after with her. A twin flame if you will. I never had any doubt or insecurities and we have always fully trusted one another. I know my home is wherever I am with her!
What do you most look forward to in the future with your significant other?
Being Air Force wives and having a family! Kids, love, carrying on with both our families and friends and moving wherever the Air Force decides. I know life will be amazing by her side and her by mine!
Tell us a bit about your love shoot! What made you decide to do a love shoot? Where did the style/design inspiration come from?
Courtney knows I love plants and am a crazy plant lady so she decided to have a shoot at a beautiful place for our anniversary. I had no idea and she picked out what I should wear and what not. I have never cried so many happy tears or felt so much love and appreciation in my life!