A Thought For Thursday
Tell us your love story!
Katie and Sylvia met early into their first year at Syracuse University. They were in the same major, the same dorm, and had many of the same foundation classes together. They also discovered they were part of the same pre-college program at Savannah College of Art & Design back in high school (same week too) although they didn’t know it at the time! With so much in common, it was meant to be.
Their love story is far from typical. Although they had feelings for each other all throughout college, it was very much a Ross/Rachel “will they or won’t they” type of situation. Life was complicated. Neither of them were fully out yet. It wasn’t until after graduation that they decided to take their friendship to the next level and start a relationship. It was the best decision they ever made! Katie moved from Maine to NYC to be with Sylvia. They experienced many ups and downs, life experiences, moves, starting a furry family together before they were officially engaged.
What about the proposal?
Kate proposed to Sylvia on the rooftop of our building in Brooklyn, NY! There were flowers, lights in mason jars, and my favorite meal (shrimp scampi). All of the neighbors in our building were in on the secret and helped Kate set it up. We watched the sunset together – it was absolutely perfect!
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
We both knew from the very beginnings of getting to know each other that we had a special connection. There was never one moment but a series of moments that cemented that we were each other’s “person.” We were each others firsts in a lot of ways! First same sex love, first long term relationship, first time moving in with a S/O – experiencing the joy and hardship that arises from these firsts made it clear that we wanted to continue making “first” memories together for a lifetime.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We knew we definitely wanted a beautiful mountain backdrop, that we wanted a spring/early summer wedding, that we didn’t want anyone under 18 at our wedding, and that we weren’t going to have a bridal party.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
All of the little details vs. the big picture! It was really difficult coordinating meeting with all of our vendors with mine and my wife’s schedule. Also, the budget. We went over by a lot.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
I wish I knew that I would have to be better about following up with our guests. Just because our wedding was our #1 priority doesn’t mean it’s everyone else’s. Life happens and people are busy. They don’t mean any harm, but waiting on people’s responses really makes the planning process difficult. Level setting this expectation would have saved us a lot of frustration.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Hire a wedding coordinator! They’re worth every penny. Find one that you vibe well with. We are still friends with our coordinator because not only was she professional, but she’s a dope person. Utilize planning and budgeting tools like The Knot. Bite off a little bit at a time; you will run into walls trying to do it all at once. Lastly, there are ways to cut costs based on your priorities. For instance, we used second hand wedding dresses from our family members. They were beautiful and saved us thousands! Save the big bucks for areas that mean the most to you and your partner.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
The best part of our wedding day was at the very end of the night, back at the hotel, when we laid down next to each other and took it all in. The realization that we are now officially wives and sitting in that thought is just the best.
What was the inspiration behind this styled shoot?
My friend’s Modern beach house with clean lines and adding a “hint” of romance.
What are some of the key elements in this shoot?
- Highlighting the couples love. (Renewing and reciting their updated wedding vows - the couple celebrated their 3 year anniversary in June.)
- Showing modern/clean lines – with a hint of romance
- Stylish attire
- Highlighting diversity
Is there an overall theme and/or color palette in this shoot?
Gold, Blue, Pink, White
Why did you choose to use an LGBTQAI+ couple for the shoot? What significance did it have?
I have been photographing weddings for 5 years. I have noticed a smaller percentage of LGBTQAI+ male representation in modern wedding magazines or blogs. I wanted to create a styled shoot to highlight LGBTQAI+ males in love.
Have you worked with LGBTQAI+ couples prior to this?
Did you learn anything new from working on this shoot?
In Spring 2019, I wanted to make sure I was doing all that I could to be inclusive and show diversity in my wedding business from my images, website, marketing materials, questionnaires, using proper verbiage, etc. As a lifelong learner, I received certifications from: Equality Institute (LGBT+ Weddings) and Equally Wed Pro’s (LGBT Inclusive) programs. I wanted to be the vendor that my clients can feel comfortable and know that I am an ally.
Anything else you’d like to add?
It is my goal to increase LGBTQAI+ wedding client representation on my website and mainstream wedding marketing. If you like my work, let’s talk about your special day and how we can work together! I will travel!