A Thought For Thursday
is what taught me
is no fucking joke."
is what taught me
is no fucking joke."
Tell us your love story!
Chris: We met on Ok Cupid! in 2011. My cousin encouraged me to join the site because he had met some nice guys in NYC. I rolled my eyes because living in Colorado Springs there was not that big of a gay community. The next day Matt messaged me and I was very suspicious. We emailed back and forth for a while because we were both traveling for work. Once our schedules allowed, we met up for a drink at a local hipster restaurant called Shuga’s. I thought to myself, this guy can’t be real, he has a car, a house, a job, and a nice family, where has he been hiding!? I soon found out Matt came out later in life and had been married before to a woman. Thanks to where I was in my life and career I wasn’t quite ready to rush anything too serious and had grown out of my over analyzing everything phase and just let things play out. One date turned into two, into four, and into history.
What about the proposal?
We didn’t have an official traditional proposal with someone getting down on one knee. We moved in with each other after 3 years of dating and bought a house in our 5th year. While driving across Colorado to visit Matt’s family one winter (during these long car rides, we could have long deep conversations) we talked about marriage being that next in our relationship and we both wanted to. When Trump was elected we felt we couldn’t wait to legally have the paperwork done so we went to the courthouse and signed our marriage license in a small courtroom ceremony with plans for our wedding the next year on the same day.
When did you know that you were meant to be with each other?
Chris: I knew pretty quickly that there was something special about Matt. When I didn’t worry about whether I would get to see him again. Right when I met him I was going through some tough work situations and he was a great support and it really showed me he cared. He also would say it was when I met the cat ;)
Matt: A week after I meet Chris in person I invited him over for dinner to my place. He met my best friends and two sisters. He handled it perfectly and I knew then he was the one for me.
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely know?
We knew we wanted our wedding to be fun and different. We knew we wanted to have brunch. We have a lot of friends and family with kids so we knew we wanted kids to come to the wedding as well.
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what was difficult?
It was surprising how quickly time seemed to move! It feels like you have all the time in the world but with work, events, and vacations, a wedding comes fast! I was thankful to have lots of friends who helped with the planning. It was difficult to make some choices so we made sure to work together and make sure that we both were on the same page.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were planning your wedding that you know now?
The one thing that I wish we would have added was a videographer. I always thought “there is no way people watch their wedding videos” but I look at my wedding photos multiple times a week and if I had a video I am sure I would watch it over and over and pull it out every year on anniversaries. Don’t just rely on a friend or a cousin for photos and video, hire a professional who truly knows what they are doing to capture the hard work you put into this event.
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
Get your team in place early and tell them what jobs they have. Have at least one person who knows all the details. If you have a wedding planner at the venue give that planner all the information. If there is someone you trust to give them the authority to make financial decisions during the event like “we need more coffee, or add another place setting for this unexpected guest” you don’t want to be bothered with these things while you are having fun enjoying the event.
What was your favorite part of your wedding day?
It is hard to choose just one! It was the best day. While we might be partial it was one of the best weddings we have ever been to! Getting to share the love we have for each other with our friends and family. When we walked into the ceremony there was a standing ovation of applause. We were not expecting that. It was really special for us to have our wedding in the original courthouse of Colorado Springs. Colorado was once known as the "hate state" and here we were sharing our love with the world. It was thrilling.
"When you move
I'm put to mind of all that I wanna be
When you move
I could never define all that you are to me"
- Movement, Hozier