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My wife and I are unsure about taking last names. Any suggestions?

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Taking last names can be tricky in queer relationships. One of you isn't traditionally "supposed" to take the other person's name. 

Many couples say they always knew who would take the other partner's last name, but for some couples it is less clear. If it isn't important to you, don't feel pressure to change your name at all, but if you're thinking about it, taking last names can be a great way to start your life together!

Hyphenated last names seem to have some sort of stigma (What about the kids?!), but I think they are great. It's the most egalitarian way to go about this name-taking business. It's a simple, equal solution.

However, if you are not interested in taking on two last names, you could always create a name that is a combination of both of your last names. This is actually really sweet and unique, although does require both of you to legally change your names. It can also be tricky, depending on your last names. 

Whatever you chose to do, don't feel pressure to change your name in a way that makes you uncomfortable. This is what you'll be addressed as for the rest of your life. 

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Felix Title_key Matthew

Engagement Party
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A Rooftop Celebration

Tell us how you met and fell in love!

We met on a Manhattan rooftop in June 2016 and have been inseparable ever since. Our proposal and engagement were also on NYC rooftops (we both enjoy a good view!).

Was there a proposal? Tell us about it!

Felix proposed to Matthew on the rooftop of the Cartier mansion in NYC (first proposal of its type for Cartier), and according to Felix is took a lot of strong partnerships to pull it off. Our client advisor, Rodica, had invited us for a private tour of the building, that started on the first floor and made its way up to the roof, explaining the history and heritage of the Cartier. When we arrived to the roof, the Central Park Orchestra was playing Make it to Me by Sam Smith, and the Cartier team had prepared the rings on a silver tray, with strawberries and champagne. There was hidden photography, followed by a photo session all throughout the building after Felix popped the question.

Are you planning your wedding right away or giving yourself some time to just be engaged?

We wanted to have an impactful engagement party to allow us some more time to be engaged and really perfect the details of the wedding. We plan to be married by Fall 2020.

What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your spouse-to-be?

Matthew to Felix – To live in the moment and enjoy everything that is in front of you. We both have intense jobs, and a crazy schedule but Felix is great at staying true to “date night” and is always planning the next weekend getaway!

Felix to Matthew- The importance of details and dedication. Whether it’s a birthday or a wedding, people will always remember the things you did for them, and the time and attention you put into something. Matthew tries his best to perfect anything that he puts his hands on (for better or worse).

What’s your favorite part of your relationship?

Our ability to openly communicate. We both have the same core values, but neither one of us are afraid to share our point of view, and work through a solution if we don’t see eye to eye. We respect each other, and always work as a team.

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A Thought For Thursday
gallery Nov 29 2018
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"My threads came loose,

frayed and dangling, wind tossed

and unraveled.

These pieces there, those

lost and send searching

for a safe place to land, like wishes

like prayers scattered out.

Gathered them up, you did,

steady handed weaving

to put them back together.

Those strings to your strings,

knotted, then again,

like shoelaces

never meant to come

untied.

I run now, unafraid

of the wind."

- Tyler Knott Gregson

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Becky Title_key Jessica

Engagement
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How did you meet and how long have you dated?

You know how EVERYONE meets now in the 21st-century...we met online! With a quick swipe to the right, Jesica reached out to Becky. We talked for several weeks before getting enough courage to meet up. Jessica bailed (several times) because she was playing hard to get and was afraid that the banter online wouldn’t transition into real life. However, our first date was amazing! Three restaurants, a brief snow flurry and a romantic first kiss, here we are! We have been obsessed since!

Tell us the story of the proposal!

Bec’s proposal was first! It took place in Honolulu on top of Tantalus (Google it! Now! Seriously! It’s beautiful). It is a gorgeous mountain top overlooking all of Honolulu. Bec planned the perfect picnic with Jessica’s favorite macaroons and wine!! Macaroon’s were personalized to say “You are my greatest adventure, Jessica will you marry me??”  She also wrote and published a love book, starring Jessica which we read together as a surprise photographer appeared to capture the moment. Immediately following, we flew to the big island to celebrate!

What are your favorite things about one another?

Jessica: Bec is the most selfless human I have ever met. One of the most attractive qualities for me, is her caring personality. She puts 110% of love and affection into, not only her patients, but ALL of her family and friends. She fills a room with smiles when she enters and she makes me feel like a queen every day. She is an amazing cook, I’m talking gourmet type cooking, like 5 course wine pairing on a Tuesday night! She completes me. When we are out, I only see her and she makes me laugh so hard I feel those deep belly laughs that feel so good but also kind of hurt a little (in the most amazing way). She’s my favorite human on this earth. I could literally sit with her in a room doing nothing and have the time of my life! I LOVE HER SO MUCH! Okay, now I’m crying. Passing the mic...

Bec: Jessica changed my life trajectory in every sense of the word.  She encouraged me to get out of the rat race that was leading into a management position and working 80 hours a week.  Now look at us, because of Jessica’s support, adventurous spirit, and lust for life, we fucking live in Hawaii! She helps me appreciate the little things in life...To drive slower.... To live each moment...To get another round. Plus I mean - have you seen her? She’s gorgeous!

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