How did you meet?
Craig and I met online via OKCupid (gosh, does that even
still exist these days?!). We met at the Embarcadero Ferry Building for coffee
and ended up talking well into the night! It was pretty clear that we both
liked each other fast!
about the proposal?
Craig’s a light
sleeper, so Thomas wasn’t able to figure out ring sizes and make it a surprise.
We went to Tiffany’s to check out rings, and a few weeks later, Thomas popped
the question first. Craig followed up with a ring for Thomas a couple weeks
When did you know that you were meant to be with each
Three months into dating, we had a real “trial by fire!”
Craig hosted a Thanksgiving dinner at his place, and Thomas agreed to help.
After double the number of guests appeared and the entire dinner was cleaned
out, they both knew this relationship was going to work!
Going into the wedding planning, what did you definitely
We wanted something that was fun, and not too stuffy. A big
party for our friends, and we definitely didn’t want our wedding party to be
running errands for us the week leading into the ceremony. We had just signed a contract with the UC
Berkeley Botanical Gardens and were realizing that we had to build out our own
kitchen. It seemed a little complicated… thankfully we found Chanda!
What surprised you during planning? What was easy, what
It was incredible the sheer number of vendors we ended up
needing. From the bus service to florist to lighting and music, there were many
relationships to juggle, especially trying to judge if someone was friendly to
the LGBT community. The easiest part was definitely the cake tasting.
Is there anything you wish you knew while you were
planning your wedding that you know now?
Navigating etiquette got super complicated; the timing and
phrasing of who to invite, and in what format, and how to exactly say what you
needed to say was harder than we expected, especially when choosing the guest
Any advice for couples planning weddings now? Anything you
would have done differently or anything you’d like to add?
The first advice we give to our friends who are planning
their special day is to get a wedding planner! The second piece is to decide
what elements are really important to you, and think hard about those specific
pieces. Lastly, everyone is on the same team, but there will be differences of
opinion. Being able to compromise and understand what’s most important to
everyone will keep those nerves from fraying.
What was your
favorite part of your wedding day?
Craig: Seeing the
joy and happiness reflected in our guests’ eyes made the year+ of planning
my mom down the aisle at the start of our ceremony was a great way to make her
feel both loved and involved.